System and method for searching, finding and contacting dates on the Internet in instant messaging networks and/or in other methods that enable immediate finding and creating immediate contact

ABSTRACT

Computer dating is applied to instant messaging, in a novel, systematic and flexible way. This system and method enable the user to search and find instantly compatible dates in instant messaging networks on the basis of attribute search or 1-way compatibility search or 2-way compatibility search, and to search either for potential dates that are currently Online or also for dates that are currently Offline. Many additional features are described, and especially for example features that are based on improved integration between computer dating and instant messaging. Important features include for example: a. Integration of the dating environment with the contactee list (buddy list). b. Generating a list of compatible dates with different markings for people that are online or offline or a list divided into sub-lists or separate lists according to this. c. Applying a reverse variation by adding Instant messaging features to an Online dating site. d. Automatic instant notification when a new highly compatible date is available, instead of only periodical reports. e. Using a database of systematic pictures to which the users relate in defining their own appearance and the appearance of the desired date. f. Automatic finding of duplicate records. g. Addition of “OR” and/or “IF” relationships between questions instead of only the usual “AND”.

BACKGROUND OF THE INVENTION

1. Field of the Invention

The present invention relates to instant messaging and computer dating on the Internet, and more specifically to a system and method for computer dating in the context of instant messaging, and/or in other methods that enable immediate finding of potential dates and creating immediate contact.

2. Background

Computer dating means matching people by computer after filling a questionnaire which typically contains a description of a list of attributes in themselves and a list of attributes that they want in their ideal date. Such services have existed on the Internet for a number of years.

Instant messaging is a relatively new technology, in which people are able to find instantly if any individuals in a specified list of friends or acquaintances are logged in to the Internet at a given time and, if so, communicate with them instantly. This technology is typically based on the principle of the client program sending a very short message (with the user's unique id number in the instant messaging network) at relatively short intervals (such as for example once a minute) to a central server or servers whenever the user is logged-in to the Internet and the client program is activated. This way, when these messages cease, the server(s) knows that the user is no longer connected, even if he did not terminate the connection properly. When users know that they are online at the same time, they can start exchanging instant messages or open real time textual online chat. The 3 most known instant messaging networks on the Internet today are ICQ, AOL's Instant Messenger, and Microsoft's MSN Messenger.

However, when searching for new people, the current instant messaging networks typically allow users to search mainly by name or by e-mail and some of them also by interests, although one of them (Odigo) allows to search also by sex, age, area, languages, occupation & interests. However, to the best of my knowledge there is no way to systematically search in these networks for compatible dates by attributes such as for example education, general background, appearance, attitudes, and personality, or by reciprocal compatibility in any of the above mentioned attributes. This is a waste of a huge potential since some of these networks already have more than dozens of millions of people. Also, Odigo allows searching only among people currently connected, which means that highly compatible dates can be missed just because they don't happen to be Online at exactly the time of the search. Also, Odigo does not show people by order of compatibility. Adding such features to instant messaging systems would be a significant improvement over the prior art in instant messaging systems and in computer dating systems.

This ability for instant contact is important also because one of the things that are missing in online computer-dating systems is the ability to have a systematic search for reciprocally compatible dates immediately after filling the questionnaire, and then being able to contact immediately the compatible dates, such as for example by getting their phone number or being able to instantly communicate with them through the Internet. Typically computer dating systems give usually only the e-mail address of compatible dates, or even worse—allow only to leave them a message in a special mailbox within the computer-dating system. This can be very bad because if a normal e-mail is not generated it can take a long and frustrating time to get a response.

The only relevant patent that I saw is U.S. Pat. No. 5,963,951 by Gregg Collins, granted Oct. 5, 1999. However, my opinion is that almost everything in that patent is either trivial or exists already in prior art. And yet he got the patent. The Present invention is much more sophisticated and with much more advance over the prior art. Another relevant patent, which was found in the International Search Report, is U.S. Pat. No. 6,272,467, issued on Aug. 7, 2001, to Durand et. al. However, this patent claims in the background section that “it is believed that most computer dating systems fall into two basic types: (1) linear matching; and (2) one-way compatibility screening . . . This similar/non-similar type of matching fails to take into account the fact that persons may place different emphasis on a trait in others than on a trait that they themselves exhibit. Moreover, this type of matching fails to account for the fact that males and females place significantly different emphasis on the weighting of factors and also have significantly different tolerances for variability in factors . . . prior computer dating systems thus have failed to employ two-way matching and to utilize a numerical method of evaluating potential matches instead of similar/not-similar approach”. This statement is clearly wrong because for example the present inventor has been running a computer-dating service based on two-way, reciprocal compatibility, which also takes into account the importance for each question, and creates and reports compatibility scores (and also uses for example a minimum compatibility threshold), at least since 1991 in Israel, and since 1995 in the USA, under the name “The Internet Computer Dating Service”, in a web site (http://computer-dating.com) which has been well indexed in major search engines, including for example yahoo, and publicized in the relevant news groups. Therefore, the main “improvements over the prior art” claimed in the above patent are simply not novel and exist in the prior art. Consequently, most of the claims in the above patent can be easily invalidated by prior art.

SUMMARY OF THE INVENTION

The present invention is a novel concept which applies computer dating to the context of instant messaging, in a systematic and flexible way that to the best of the inventor's knowledge has never been done before. This system and method enable the user to search and find instantly compatible dates in instant messaging networks on the basis of attribute search or 1-way compatibility search or 2-way compatibility search instead of being limited to search only by the limited options described above, and to search either for potential dates that are currently Online or Offline, and also take advantage of many additional features, and especially features that are based on improved integration between computer dating and instant messaging. A further feature of the present invention is that preferably at least in one embodiment it can work also across instant messaging networks, so that users can find each other even if they are members in different instant messaging networks. A further feature of this invention is that it can make the large instant messaging networks also the biggest dating services in the world. It can also help them start charging for payments in the future, after a sufficient number of users have also started using the dating option. It can help them grow even faster for example by increasing further the users' motivation to recommend the system to additional friends, for example by giving the user more privileges, such as for example additional lists or credit points for each friend that they bring. This can be done for example by letting the user have for example a free membership for example for one or more months (or other reasonable period) for each new user that he/she adds to the service (or for example only if the friend pays for at least some subscription, or for example if the friend pays then the free extension is for a longer period) (preferably each new member gets initially a free trial period of for example a few days or one month or other reasonable period), and/or for example creating a preferably recursive MLM (Multi-Level Marketing), so that for example each user can even make some profit as a preferably small percent of subscription fees paid by new users that he/she has brought to the service, and preferably for example, preferably to a lesser extent, also revenues from additional users brought by these additional users, for example until a certain cumulative percent (and/or for example until some maximum amount for example per new user) and/or until a certain level in the tree. In this case, preferably this structure can be traced by the users for example on the Internet so that each user can know preferably at all times how many “agents” are working in the logical tree below him/her at any time and/or preferably how much each of them sold and preferably what his/her credit status is at any time, etc. Another possible variation is that for example each user is encouraged to add a link to the IM network and/or related dating site from a web page and gets for example free membership and/or other benefits as long as the link exists (This can for example improve the placement of the site for example in search engines such as Google, even if the page itself does not bring much more traffic). (Preferably the users that make the link have to comply with specific text (for example in the href and/or near it) and/or icons that are approved by the dating service, but the dating service preferably makes available a sufficient number of texts and/or icons which the users can choose from). Another possible variation is that the added friend or new user preferably also gets some benefit, such as for example some reduction is his/her own subscription fees or some additional credit or for example some extended free period (preferably compared to new users who were not brought by other users), so that he/she does not feel that only the person who brought him/her gains something. Preferably users can add their friends for example by filling a form which sends them an email (in which case preferably the system checks and lets the user know if the friend is already in the system, and when each new user joins preferably the system automatically checks if that user has been added through one of these forms). However, since people can tell their friends about the service also without using the form for that, preferably also when filling the questionnaire the new user preferably has a field for indicating the name and/or email of the friend (or other user) who brought him if he/she was referred to the service by a friend (or other user). Another possible variation is to let each user for example press some icon (or for example link or key, or perform any other simple action) which automatically sends a message about the dating service to all the people in his/her IM contactee list, and preferably allowing him/her to do it also with other IM clients if he is using more than one IM service. (Of course, if the dating service is related to one of the leading IM networks, then the IM company itself can also send for example automatic messages about the dating service to all the existing members of the IM network). Another possible variation is to offer to users for example the chance to win free membership for example for half a year (or any other reasonable period) if they join within a short time (so that for example 1 in 5 users, or any other reasonable ratio, can win this at random). It might also be extended similarly to cover also chat networks such as for example IRC (for example by coupling an appropriate add-on to the IRC client).

The system and method are preferably based at least on two main elements:

-   -   1. A module (or modules) for filling and/or making changes to         the computer dating questionnaire, preferably containing         self-description, description of the ideal date, and the         importance for each question. This module can be implemented         preferably as either:         -   a. An appropriate plug-in or add-on or element in a plug-in             or add-on for the client program preferably for each of the             main instant messaging networks where plug-ins or add-ons             are possible,         -   b. A standalone application or part of a custom-made instant             messaging client.

The data filled by the user is then preferably either saved locally on his/her computer, or sent to a central server (or servers), or both.

-   -   2. A search & instant messaging contact module or modules for         finding & contacting potential dates (For example by attribute         search or reciprocal compatibility search) who are currently         Online and/or who can be added to a contactee list (Preferably         even if they are not currently Online) in order to notify the         user when they are Online again. Preferably, this module can be         either based on:         -   a. A suitable plug-in or add-on coupled to the client             program preferably for each of the main instant messaging             networks where plug-ins or add-ons are possible, that is             preferably activated each time the user activates said             client program. Whenever this plug-in or add-on is             activated, preferably it first sends the user's             compatibility questionnaire data to a central server (or             servers) (this is needed for example in case the database of             potential dates is dynamic and exists only during the time             that these people are logged in, or if the user has just             filled the questionnaire for the first time or made changes             to it) and then preferably sends only small packets of data             containing at least the user's unique id every certain             interval. (Taking care of sending these short messages may             be done also by a separate element or plug-in or add-on).             When the user wants to search for new people to add to his             contact list for example according to attributes search or             2-way compatibility search, preferably the search is done             either on the dynamic database as explained above or in a             static database of users that filled the compatibility             questionnaire, according to different embodiments. The             system can (preferably in different embodiments, or as             options in one program) use either a static database or a             dynamic one, or both—for different types of searches and for             efficiency considerations. However, even if a dynamic             database is used, at least minimal data such as for example             the user's name and e-mail and unique ID, is preferably kept             also in a central static database on the server. If the             search is done on the dynamic database (or on a static             database with a request to ignore all those who are not             currently Online), the people found are already by             definition only people that are currently logged on. If the             search is done on a static database of people that filled             the questionnaire without the requirement that they be             currently online, preferably the user can either:             -   1. Add them to the contact list on his normal instant                 messaging client program, and then the user will be                 notified by the instant messaging client itself whenever                 they are logged in. However, if some of these persons                 are members of other instant messaging networks, the                 user will need to ask them to join also the network in                 which he/she is enlisted, otherwise he/she will not be                 able to add them in this way.             -   2. Add them to a special contact list maintained by the                 plug-in or add-on itself, and then the user will be                 notified by the plug-in or add-on whenever they are                 logged in. This second option is better of course,                 because it enables the user to be notified also if the                 target people are members in instant messaging networks                 other than the one the user belongs to. However, in this                 case the plug-in or add-on preferably also includes an                 element that enables the user to communicate and                 exchange instant messages with users of other instant                 messaging networks, unless the user asks them to join                 also his/her own network. Preferably, the plug-in or                 add-on does this for example by using the same protocol                 for instant message exchange between plug-ins or add-ons                 in all types of clients for which we design a plug-in or                 add-ons. Another possible implementation of this feature                 is that if the add-on is based at least in part on a                 wrapper around the client or is more fully integrated                 with the client, it can for example let the client or                 part of the client act as if it is communicating with                 another client of the same network or with its server,                 but translate the communication to another protocol                 and/or redirect it, as shown in FIG. 7. This has the                 advantage of letting the user continue working with the                 interface and front-end that he/she is used to in                 his/her favorite IM network. Preferably the system knows                 if someone is Online either by contacting the                 appropriate server of the IM network to which the client                 belongs, or, preferably in a different embodiment, by                 using our own server and generating our own repeating                 signal from the client. This is no problem, since in                 order to participate in the dating, all users of the                 system on other IM networks are using an appropriate                 plug-in or add-on anyway, so they all can connect to the                 same server and use the same protocol for the repeating                 signal. Both if the search was only for people currently                 online or also people offline, preferably the user can                 similarly add any of the people that came up in the                 search to his/her list of contactees in any of the ways                 explained above—so that he/she can be automatically                 notified when they are Online again the next time                 (Preferably the user may for example click on them one                 by one or mark a whole group for adding). Preferably                 this notification is by at least one of the following                 ways: When the user is using the client program                 preferably the program indicates to the user visually                 and/or by an attention getting sound when a compatible                 date that is on the contactee list (and/or for example                 on the list of compatibility search results) becomes                 online. Another possible variation is that if the user                 himself/herself is not currently Online, the user can be                 automatically notified for example by SMS or by email or                 by preferably automatic phone call when such a date                 becomes online or for example at least for dates which                 the user marked as especially important to him/her or                 requested to be especially notified about them.         -   b. A complete or independent instant messaging application             that works like a normal instant messaging client connecting             to a main server or servers, with the added features of             being able to search for users for example by attributes or             by 1-way or 2-way compatibility. Preferably, the system can             also similarly use either a static database or a dynamic             one, or preferably both—for different types of searches and             for efficiency considerations (preferably in different             embodiments), and have features as described above. However,             even if a dynamic database is used, at least minimal data             such as for example the user's name and e-mail and unique             ID, is preferably kept also in a central static database on             the server. This complete application can be either a             stand-alone, or a plug-in or add-on coupled to a major             Internet communication program, such as for example one of             the big browsers, or for example an integral part of the             browser, so that for example the IM client (or at least part             of it) and/or the part of the client that deals with dating             are integral parts of the browser.             Definitions and Clarification

Through out the patent whenever variations or various solutions are mentioned, it is also possible to use various combinations of these variations or of elements in them, and when combinations are used, it is also possible to use at least some elements in them separately or in other combinations. These variations can be in different embodiments, or different versions of the software, or sometimes different options available to choose from. In other words: certain features of the invention, which are described in the context of separate embodiments, may also be provided in combination in a single embodiment. Conversely, various features of the invention, which are described in the context of a single embodiment, may also be provided separately or in any suitable sub-combination.

As used throughout the entire specifications and the claims, the following words have the indicated meanings:

-   -   “Client” or “Client program” is an application that runs on the         user's computer and communicates with a server or servers,         usually on the Internet. In the context of this invention,         Client means Instant Messaging Client, unless stated otherwise.     -   “Server” or “Servers” as used throughout the patent, including         the claims, are always meant interchangeably to be either server         or servers. “Server” is a computer on a network that is running         software (or the software itself) that provides data and         services to clients over the network (which can be any kind of         network, including the Internet).     -   “Our client” or “Our own client” refers to a custom-made         instant-messaging client with the features of this invention         built-in.     -   “Our server” or “Our own server” refers to a custom-made         instant-messaging server with the features of this invention         built-in.     -   “Standalone” is an application that runs on it's own.     -   “Plug-in” is an application that runs as part of or as an         addition to another application and is called from it when         needed. “Add-on” is a more general term than plug-in and refers         to elements or features that are added to or coupled to a given         application in any way possible, such as for example a plug-in         or with a program that wraps around it, or in any other way         allowed by the application or by the operating system. As used         throughout the text of the patent, including the claims, these         terms are meant to be interchangeably either plug-in or add-on.     -   “Plug-in” or “Plug-ins” as used throughout the patent, including         the claims, are always meant interchangeably to be either         Plug-in or Plug-ins     -   “Add-on” or “Add-ons” as used throughout the patent, including         the claims, are always meant interchangeably to be either add-on         or add-ons.     -   “User” or “users” as used throughout the patent, including the         claims, can interchangeably to be either user or users, and can         refer to both sexes even when words such as “he” or “she” or         “his” or “her” are used.     -   “Dynamic Database” as used throughout the text, including the         claims, means that the data from the users questionnaires is         kept on the server or servers only as long as they are Online,         so when a user becomes Online again his/her data is resent from         his/her client program to the server.     -   “Static Database” as used throughout the text, including the         claims, means that the data from the users questionnaires is         kept on the server or servers also when they are not Online, and         preferably their Online/Offline status is kept as part of their         records or in a separate file or pointer or index. Of course         'static does not mean that the data in the database doesn't         change—data can be updated as often as needed.     -   “Database” or “Databases” or “DB” as used throughout the patent,         including the claims, are always meant interchangeably to be         either database or databases.     -   “Contactee list” or “Contact list” or “Buddy list” refers to the         list of people for which the user wishes to be notified when         they are Online.     -   “History list” in instant messaging systems is the list of         previous messages exchanged between the user and a given         contactee.     -   “IM” is short for Instant Messaging.     -   “Cellular phone” or “mobile phone” or “wireless phone” as used         throughout the patent, including the claims, can mean any device         for communications through wireless and/or cellular technology,         including for example Internet-enabled cellular phones, such as         for example the Japanese DoCoMo, 3^(rd) Generation cellular         communication devices, palm computers communicating by cellular         and/or wireless technology, etc.     -   “Computer” as used throughout the text of the patent, including         the claims, can refer to a personal computer, or any automated         device or gadget with one or more processor or CPU, capable of         more than simple arithmetic functions. This includes for example         also cellular phones and portable computing devices such as for         example palm pilot.     -   “Online” or “logged-on” or “logged-in” as used throughout the         text of the patent, including the claims, in the context of IM         networks means that a user is connected to the Internet, with         the IM client open, unless for example the contact has been open         for a long time and the user hasn't typed anything (or clicked         or responded or shown any other type of activity). In the         context of Online Computer Dating Services it means that the         user has logged into the system for example with his/her user         name and password not longer than a certain time ago (for         example within the last 20 minutes or any other reasonable time         frame), and/or the user has performed at least one activity in         the system (such as for example view data, change data, or         perform a search for compatible dates) not longer than a certain         short time ago.     -   “Internet” is the Internet as it is now, or any other similar         network that exists or will exist in the future.     -   “Self Description” or “Self data” throughout the text, including         the claims, means the answers the user gives about         himself/herself in the Dating Questionnaire. Except for some         special questions, the user can preferably choose just one         answer in each question for his/her self-description. For         example, the user marks that he has dark hair in the question         about hair color.     -   “Desired date”, “Ideal date”, “Preferences” or “Wanted”         throughout the text, including the claims, means the answers the         user gives about the optimal and acceptable levels he/she wants         to have in the desired date in each question. Preferably, the         user can choose more than one option in the “wanted”, and         preferably also specify the level of desirability of each option         that he/she prefers. For example in hair color the user may want         Blonde girls with higher desirability and red hair with lower         desirability.     -   “Importance” or “Weight” means the level of importance the user         gives each question, for example: Doesn't matter, Slightly         important, Important, Very important, Extremely important, or         Necessary.     -   “2-way compatibility” means that the matching is done by taking         into account both the user's self description and preferences         and each potential date's self description and preferences, and         preferably also the importance given by each of them to each of         the questions.     -   “1-way compatibility” means that the matching is done at least         by taking into account the user's preferences and each potential         date's self description and preferably also the importance the         user gave to each question. However, preferably even when         conducting 1-way search, the system actually does a 2-way         search, in order to check that the user also fulfills the         potential date's expectations by at least a certain minimum,         preferably defined by the system. Since the dating questionnaire         is preferably long, containing for example above 100 questions,         preferably when conducting 1-way or 2-way searches the data is         used directly from the saved questionnaire.     -   “Attribute search” means that the user just marks a certain         preferably small number of attributes that he/she wants to         search for in the potential dates. The importances for this         small set of preferences can be for example assumed to be         necessary, or in another possible embodiment the user can         specify the importances even in this case. Preferably this fast         search is either conducted by ignoring the user's self         description, or conducted similarly to the 1-way search         described above, except that the attributes are preferably         defined by the user on the fly and used instead of his/her full         list of preferences. Preferably, the results of the attribute         search can be for example just dates that fulfill a 100% of the         requests, or any percent above the defined minimum like in the         1-way and 2-way searches.     -   “Frozen” means that a certain user does not receive compatible         dates lists and does not appear on other users' lists until the         user requests to be unfrozen or the system decides that a         certain event has occurred that justifies unfreezing him/her         (for example if the user has reentered the system after being         Offline for a long time and the freezing was done automatically         by the system due to lack of activity and not due to a specific         request by the user).

BRIEF DESCRIPTION OF THE DRAWING

FIG. 1 a shows a preferable structure of the client-server system in the instant messaging network, with the part that implements the dating.

FIG. 1 is a schematic diagram of a preferable way the questionnaire-filling application works as a plug-in or add-on within an instant-messaging client.

FIG. 2 is a schematic diagram of a preferable way the questionnaire-filling application works as a standalone application or as part of a custom-made instant messaging client.

FIG. 3 is a schematic diagram of a preferable way that a dynamic database of users that are currently Online works.

FIG. 4 is a schematic diagram of a preferable way that a static database of users that filled the compatibility questionnaire works.

FIG. 5 is a schematic diagram of a preferable way the search plug-in or add-on conducts attribute and compatibility searches within the context of the instant messaging client.

FIG. 6 is a schematic diagram of a preferable way attribute and compatibility searches are conducted within a custom-made instant messaging client.

FIG. 7 is a schematic diagram of a preferable way that the add-on can for example let the client or part of the client act as if it is communicating with another client of the same network or with its server, but translate the communication to another protocol and/or redirect it to the other network.

FIG. 8 is an example of a preferable way that the extended contactee list can look like.

FIG. 9 is an example of a preferable way that the list of most compatible dates following a reciprocal compatibility search can look like.

FIG. 10 is an example of a Javascript computer-dating questionnaire which shows each time one question and uses elongated radio and checkbox buttons.

DETAILED DESCRIPTION OF THE PREFERRED EMBODIMENT

All of descriptions in this and other sections are intended to be illustrative examples and not limiting. The system and method described may be also regarded as a virtual machine that performs the described functions.

FIG. 1 a shows a preferable structure of the client-server system in the IM network, with the part that implements the dating. The instant messaging client (2) runs within the user's computer (1), and, if it's not a custom-made client, is preferably coupled to a plug-in or plug-ins or add-on or add-ons (3) for adding the special features of the present invention, otherwise the parts that implement these features in the client are part of the client itself. The user's computer (1) is connected through connection (4) to the Internet (5), where our server(s) (6) (with dynamic or static database(s) or both (7)) reside. The database (no matter if dynamic or static) is of course preferably run by the server, and all date searches are preferably carried out there, although there can be for example a separation between the server (or servers) that handles the IM activity, and another server (or servers) that run the actual dating database and perform the searches and compatibility matches, etc., and return the results to the requesting client programs.

Preferably the system also has at least one or more of the following improvements over existing Instant Messaging systems:

-   -   1. The contactee list is preferably run by the client program         (2) in the customary shape of a table, but preferably indicates         also preferably near each contactee additional data such as for         example the last date & time he/she was online (in the instant         messaging network) and/or the most common range of hours and/or         week days he/she is most likely to be found online (In another         variation this can be a more crude time range, such as for         example, morning, noon, afternoon, early evening, late evening,         and night), and/or for example the last time he/she performed a         search for potential dates in the system (preferably the client         program automatically gets these updates from the server when         the user is Online), and/or geographical area (or for example         some relative distance estimate compared to the user), and/or         the compatibility scores, and/or how often they are usually         online (such as for example how many hours on average per week         or per day). This is very important since many times, and         especially if the user has not used the system for some time, it         is very hard to tell which of your contactees are still         available and when it is likely to encounter them. Preferably         near each contactee is listed also the last time contact was         made with him/her and/or for example the length of his/her         history list. Preferably, the table of contactees contains also         a visible status indication about each person—for example if         he/she is still looking for romance or other types of         connection, etc. Preferably these additional data fields are         visible by default near each contactee without having to click         on anything in order to see them. An example of a way the         contactee list can look like is shown in FIG. 8. Of course, like         other features of this invention, these features can be used         also independently of any other features of this invention, so         that for example at least some of these additional data (such as         for example the last date & time the contactee was online, the         most common range of hours and/or week days he/she is most         likely to be found online, and/or how often he is usually         online) can be used also in contactee lists of IM networks that         are not integrated with dating. Of course it is also possible         for example to keep a separate contactee list only for         contactees that were added through the dating, instead of         keeping them for example in a separate sub-list as shown in the         example of FIG. 8, but that is less preferable.     -   2. Preferably the user can choose if to sort the contactee list         according to alphabetic order, compatibility score (at least for         those contactees that were added through the date-searching), or         any of the other data mentioned in clause 1 above, or additional         data, or any combinations of these.     -   3. Preferably the user has the ability to know how many people         have him/her in their contactee lists and/or for example how         many people received him/her in their dating lists. This is very         easy to accomplish since either the user's client program or the         server or both can for example increase a counter or decrease it         whenever someone adds or deletes the user. Another possible         variation is that the client program or the server or both can         also keep a list of all the people that added the user to their         contactee lists, so that the user can for example send messages         that can be automatically distributed to all of them, and/or         request to view the list of people that have him/her on their         lists (preferably at least their names and e-mails and/or IM         ids). So preferably the server and/or the client program keep         for each user also a “reverse” contactee-list, which lists all         the other users who added him/her to their list and haven't         deleted him/her yet. Another possible variation is that the         server keeps only a copy of each contactee list and when needed         the server runs over these lists and searches them, preferably         with the aid of an index. (Of course, if the act of adding         someone to the list of contactees is reciprocal, then the client         program can know automatically that you were also added to their         list, but this is not necessarily so, especially in cases that         the person has not limited adding him to the list to requesting         explicit authorization. Also, even if the adding to the         contactee list could in some systems be automatically         reciprocal, there is no reason why the deletion should be like         this: if person A deletes person B from his list, it does not         necessarily mean that person B wants to delete person A from his         list, so the deletion process would make it non-trivial to know         on which or on how many contactee lists you are actually         listed). Another possible variation is that the system         automatically indicates near each person in the user's contactee         list and/or in his/her date-search results list if that person         has already added the user to his/her own contactee list.         Another possible variation is that when someone adds the user to         his/her contactee list, the user gets a preferably instant         automatic notification about this and is preferably         automatically invited (for example with a link or icon to press)         to view the other person's data and/or the compatibility score         with the other person and/or to make the link reciprocal. The         instant notification can be for example by any of the methods         for instant notification described in this application. However,         if such automatic notification is used, preferably the adding         user has also an option to suppress the automatic notification         to the added user (for example as a default choice that will be         used also for the next people that he/she adds to his/her list,         or for example the user has to request this suppression         explicitly in each case, in order to encourage people not to         interfere with this notification). (However, suppressing this         automatic notification preferably does not change the ability of         users to view their reverse contactee lists, as explained         above). Also, the user can preferably also suppress for example         such automatic notifications to him/her.     -   4. Preferably, if someone changes his/her status for example         from “available for dating” to non-available, etc., this is         automatically broadcast (for example by the client program of         that user or by the server) to all the people who have him/her         on their contactee list, so that his/her status is updated on         their lists (This can be done for example by an automatic         message directly from that user's client program that updates         the client programs of these people when they are Online and if         they are Offline preferably waits for them till they are Online         again, or for example done similarly through the server). This         updating is of course preferably in addition to making the         person not appear in further date searches by others if the         change in status implied this (until the status allows this         again)—for example if he/she is in a relationship, etc. Another         possible variation is that preferably each user can also remove         himself/herself automatically from all the contactee lists where         he/she is listed and/or at least for example block certain users         for example by being deleted from their contactee lists or by         making the system never let them know that the user is online.         However, these, like other features, can preferably be used only         with a password and/or other safety means so that no other users         can make such changes in the user's name by pretending to be the         user.     -   5. Preferably when the matching potential dates are found, they         are listed by descending reciprocal compatibility score.         However, since there can be a large variance between the way         people mark the acceptable ranges in the “Wanted” in each         question and the way they mark the importances of questions, the         score of how much someone fits the user's expectations can         depend very much on the general bias of the user, in other words         his/her tendency to be more or less “generous” in general in         his/her scores. Therefore, in order to create a certain minimum         normalization, preferably for sorting by reciprocal score, the         score of how much the potential date fits the user's         expectations is preferably given stronger weight (and thus         effects more the reciprocal score, which is a weighted average)         than how much the user fits the potential date's expectations.         Another possible variation is to create some normalization of         this by taking into account for example the average 1-way score         that the user gives compatible dates and his standard deviation,         and thus either use normalized scores, or use the normalization         to create only a partial correction of the absolute scores. This         is more preferable than full normalization because the fact that         someone gives generally higher scores to everyone can also mean         that he/she is really more open and more fit for many people         than someone who gives lower scores in general. This can have         the effect of automatically also reducing the number of times         such a person appears on other users' lists, in order to improve         the balance. If such normalization is used, preferably the         relevant data, such as for example average score and standard         deviation is saved in the date's record, preferably following         his/her own searches, so that it is immediately available         without further calculation the next time that date is matched         with someone. Another possible variation is for example to         automatically limit at least temporarily the number of times the         user can appear on other users' lists if his/her number of         appearances in other lists has gone beyond a certain excess         limit defined by the program (preferably in terms of         percentages, since the absolute numbers change as the database         grows). Preferably such a limitation can be for example defined         automatically by the system and/or for example specified by         users who request such limitation. Another possible variation is         to allow the user to specify more than 2 levels of         acceptability, for example 3 levels (For example: optimal,         desirable and acceptable). This can increase the flexibility and         allow a better approximation to the real curve. In addition to         this, preferably if a user's compatibility scores are generally         low beyond a certain criterion, preferably the system can report         to the user (for example automatically or upon the user's         request after displaying this option) the list of questions that         most contributed to the problem (for example the 10 questions         that most lower his scores with other people, or all the         questions that contributed more than a certain factor to         lowering the scores, preferably in descending order of magnitude         of effect and/or for example in descending order of the         importance of these questions to the user). This can be done for         example by letting the matching program that runs on the server         keep statistics for each user while running him/her against the         potential dates, so that the statistics track the questions that         are most problematic. Another possible variation is to run this         statistical check only upon request and/or only on a subset         sample of potential dates in order not to slow down the normal         matching process when running the search on all potential dates.         Another possible variation is to allow any user, even if there         is no problem, to request and view for example a similar list of         all the questions that had most effect on lowering or on adding         to the compatibility scores, preferably in descending of         magnitude and/or importance. Another possible variation is for         example to give the user also the option of choosing sorting by         1-way compatibility scores, and in that case preferably the user         will get someone only if the opposite 1-way compatibility score         is above a certain minimum, preferably a minimum set by the         system and not by the user. (In other words you can request a         sorting by how much the mate fits your expectations, but you         will only be allowed to get mates whose expectations you also         fit to a certain minimum). Preferably in this case the search         results list shows also the reverse compatibility for each date.         Of course these options can be used also in normal         computer-dating systems. As mentioned above, preferably the user         has also the option to request just a search by a list of         traits, which is in other words a 1-way compatibility but         typically on a small number of traits and without necessarily         checking the opposite 1-way score, but in this case preferably         the system can for example create various limitations such as         for example that persons who don't fill the questionnaire         completely (or at least a minimal subset of required questions)         cannot participate at all in searches by others, etc., or for         example not giving the person's phone, etc., in order to reduce         the chance for harassment if the search ignores the reverse         compatibility. So if the questionnaire has for example about 150         questions, preferably the users can have a very systematic and         serious compatibility search, but also experiment with instant         searches especially when first trying out the system, by filling         just the Wanted and the Importance in the few questions that         most interest him/her, and thus start getting results already         from the first minutes. So for example within minutes after         entering the system for the first time, the user can search for         example for all the blondes with high IQ and a big bust that are         either currently online or not. Allowing such huge flexibility         is very important because each persons can want very different         things so a very large number of questions to choose from is         preferably given to the user, eventhough the user might choose         for example just 3-10 questions to start with, but these are the         few questions most important to him/her. (When choosing this         option after the user has already filled the full questionnaire,         preferably these requested traits are used instead of his         preferences as marked for the full questionnaire, and his self         data from the questionnaire can preferably either be taken into         consideration or not, or taken into consideration at least         partially, depending on the type of search or other         considerations). Another possible variation is to allow any two         users of the system to check the exact compatibility between         them, for example by entering their two unique Id numbers and         thus get normal compatibility scores or for example an even more         detailed analysis (Of course the detailed analysis can         preferably be requested by one or both of the users, however the         level of analysis can preferably reveal more if it is requested         by both users). Such more detailed analysis might include for         example the lists of questions that most contributed to or         reduced their compatibility scores (preferably in descending         order of magnitude of affect and preferably with an indication         of the points or percents added or deleted from the score by         each such question), and/or for example a numeric and/or verbal         and/or graphic display of the level of matching on each question         (if a graphic display is used then preferably for example the         color and/or size and/or shape of the marks can show the level         of matching on each question and/or the importance of that),         listed for example in the original order of the questionnaire,         or for example sorted in descending order of importance or for         example in descending order of matching, so that the most highly         matching question are listed at the top. The above lists can be         either separate, for example one list or group of lists for         showing the 1-way matching to the first person and a 2^(nd) list         or group of lists for showing the opposite 1-way match, or the         lists might be combined, so that for example the questions are         listed only once and for example only the reciprocal match is         shown for each question, or also the 2 1-way matches. Another         possible variation is to include in this analysis for example         also the serial position of each of the two persons on the other         person's list, in other words, how many other persons with         higher compatibility exists (for example there are 125 other         potential dates with higher compatibility than the 2^(nd) person         for the 1^(st) person, i.e. he/she would appear on the 1^(st)         person's list at the 126^(th) place, and there are for example         80 other potential dates with higher compatibility than the         1^(st) person for the 2^(nd) person). (Another possible         variation is that this position of the user in the other         person's list can be automatically shown also for example near         each date that the user gets, but this would be more problematic         since for efficiency reasons it would be preferable to keep for         this at the server the list of results for each date from the         last time it was run, so such a list might not be updated         enough, and also each user might generate his/her list according         to different criteria). Another possible variation is that the         user can for example request to sort the results according to         preferably any one or more specific questions that exist in the         questionnaire, so that the user can for example request to view         the girls in descending order of IQ and/or for example         descending order of bust size. Although, as explained above,         preferably at least in some embodiments a similar result can be         obtained anyway by filling for example only these two questions         in the search request, this is more flexible, since the user can         for example either request to take into account only these         questions in the search, or for example get results with         detailed compatibility scores on a large number of questions,         but still request for example to sort the results according to         one or more specific questions. (In this case preferably within         compatible dates who are in the same position according to the         sorting questions, the internal order is preferably sorted by         the compatibility scores). This way the user can for example use         freely any small number of questions for a 1-way search, but         still preferably get also a reciprocal compatibility score with         each of the potential dates that appears in the search results,         for example according to all the questions. Preferably the user         can also be told for example for each question or for each         search results exactly how many potential dates fit the request,         even if for example only a small number of dates is shown at         each step in the list. Of course, various combinations of the         above variations are also possible.     -   6. Preferably, if the user requested a search also on people who         are not currently Online, those that are Online appear in the         list of results with a preferably easily visible mark, such as         for example a different color indication and/or text size and/or         shape and/or special icon, or for example two or more separate         lists are generated (or one list divided into two or more         parts), one with people currently online and one or more with         people not currently online. Within each list or part of the         list preferably the results are still ordered by descending         compatibility score. Preferably near each person in the list of         people not currently online there is preferably also additional         data such as for example when they were last online and/or how         often they are usually online (such as for example how many         hours on average per week or per day), and/or for example on         which hours and/or days they are usually online, as shown in the         example in FIG. 9. (Of course, this information can be shown for         example also if they ARE currently online) Another possible         variation is that the list of people who are not currently         online can be further divided for example into smaller parts, so         that for example people who were online in the last week appear         in a section before people who haven't been online for example         for more than a month, etc. Within each section preferably the         sorting is again based on descending, preferably reciprocal,         compatibility score. Preferably the size of each section can be         determined automatically for example both by the compatibility         score and by the recency. Another possible variation is that         when dealing with people not currently Online the system         automatically tries to come up with a list of most compatible         dates (preferably in descending order of compatibility) who are         most recent (for example people who joined or were active within         the last 3 months), and if the scores are not high enough and/or         the list is not long enough (preferably according to criteria         determined by the system), the system automatically decides to         create instead a list containing also people who are less         recent—for example people who were active within the last half         year, and so on in one or more steps, until the list is long         enough and/or the scores are high enough and/or the recency         compromise has reached some time limit of going backwards enough         (which can be specified for example by the system and/or by the         user, for example people who were active with the last 15         months). If this variation is used then preferably it is done         very efficiently for example by automatically keeping during the         search conducted for the user a table of most highly matching         scores for each of the above time steps (for example a table of         the for example 150 highest scores for people who joined or were         active for example within the last 3 months, a table of the for         example 150 highest scores for people who joined or were active         for example within the last 6 months, a table of the for example         150 highest scores for people who joined or were active for         example within the last 12 months, etc.), and then the system         can choose for example the table of the shortest period which         contains sufficiently high scores, and simply display to the         user on that run only dates who joined or were active within         that time frame (Of course, the above time steps and the table         size of 150 highest scores are just examples and other numbers         and time steps can also be used). Another possible variation is         that there are no separate sections according to recency, but         the compatibility score itself and/or the sorting takes into         account to a certain degree also the recency, for example         according to a weight assigned for the recency factor,         determined either by the user or by the system or both.         Preferably the mark that indicates if someone is currently         online (and/or for example also the availability status of each         date, but that is less important since availability for dating         typically changes much less often than being Online or not, so         it will be updated anyway when the user performs a new search)         can be automatically updated also on the list of compatible         dates, if the user for example saves the list or keeps the         window of the list open, like in the automatic updating of the         contactee list, as explained in the reference to FIG. 8. This         way the results list can for example assume also additional         functions of the contactee list, thus becoming in a way a         special contactee list for dating results. Of course various         combinations of these and other variations are also possible. Of         course many of the variations mentioned here and in other         clauses can also be used in normal computer-dating systems. An         example of the way the results can look like is shown in FIG. 9.     -   7. Preferably the client program can receive automatic updates         from the server, so that for example if questions (or options         within questions) were added or deleted or changed in the         compatibility questionnaire, it will be updated when the user is         online with the client program. (If for example new questions         are added, preferably each user is automatically invited to fill         only the new questions, so that for example preferably the new         questions automatically appear for example every time he/she         becomes online or enters the dating site or tries to perform         certain acts in the site, such as for example perform a search,         preferably until he/she fills them, or at least under some         conditions or at least for a certain time period). This is         important, since unlike normal dating services on the Internet,         where the questionnaire is typically on the server, in this         case, for efficiency the questionnaire can be in the client         itself, which also enables filling or correcting the         questionnaire also when you are offline. Another possible         variation is that the client program retrieves again a new         updated copy of the questionnaire when the user goes online.         Preferably the client program can also be itself updated         automatically when needed, for example by sending automatically         new modules to all the users in the IM network. This feature if         it had existed in advance could for example be used to add the         dating option to all the ICQ users in the world almost instantly         (or for example to add additional features to it later), without         waiting for them to go and download a new version of the client         program. This is very important, since even if users are         informed about a great set of new features, it typically takes a         long time till they go and actually download it, and the lag in         updating causes incompatibilities between users who have already         downloaded the new version and users that didn't. It can be also         much more efficient in terms of bandwidth, especially if it is         done for example with at least some of the methods of         optimization described in U.S. patent application Ser. No.         10/375,208 of Feb. 17, 2003, by the present inventor. (However,         for reasons of security, when this automatic update occurs,         preferably the user is informed about it by the system and asked         for confirmation).     -   8. Preferably, If the user is accessing the system from a client         program on a different computer then preferably after giving an         Id and password, the client program can get his/her         questionnaire data and a copy of his/her contactee list from the         server, so he/she can still work normally in the instant         messaging network. However, this means that a copy of each         user's contactee list is preferably kept also on the server.     -   9. Many of these concepts can also be similarly implemented also         in cellular phone networks, and especially in networks where the         phones are constantly connected and there is high bandwidth,         such as for example in the 3G (3^(rd) Generation) cellular         networks. In such networks, in addition to the normal ability to         send the person an e-mail or an instant message, preferably the         user can also generate for example an SMS message, or generate a         phone-call right from the instant-messaging client. However,         (both with cellular and non-cellular phones) in case some people         don't like to give their phone in the questionnaire for example         for fear of harassment, preferably the system applies an         optional “phone proxy” or “phone escrow service”, which means         that the user has an option to mark his/her phone as protected,         and when someone gets his/her phone on the list, that someone         can call the user for example through a special visible code but         the code does not contain the real number and the call has to go         through the proxy. The call itself can be done for example by         direct activation though the client program (if it is done for         example from a cellular phone connected to the Internet, or from         a computer with a microphone and sound card), or for example         through phoning a special number and then clicking the code, and         the server there automatically routes the call to the real         number. The call routing can then of course be through the         normal phone system, but is preferably done as much as possible         by using VOIP (Voice Over IP) preferably through the Internet at         least part of the way, so that either it becomes a local         phone-call, or for example the call is eventually routed to an         invitation to enter Voice mode if the called user is online and         has a sound card with a microphone. This way various protections         can be implemented, such as for example allowing only a few         first calls through the code and if the caller does not get from         the user his/her real phone number by then, he/she can no longer         use the code, thus automatically preventing harassments. The         code can also be for example uniquely generated for each person         who conducted the search, so that the code cannot be used by         someone else. Also, since the code can preferably be changed         very easily, the user can preferably also request to change it         immediately if harassed by someone, so that someone can't use it         anymore even if the use limit hasn't been reached yet.         Preferably this can also be used for example to enforce normal         calling times and/or preferred calling times specified by the         user, so the system preferably uses the information about the         country from the questionnaire and/or the time data from the         system on each user's computer or cellular phone, and using an         updated table of time zones, preferably when someone is calling         through the code, the system makes sure that the call will not         be for example in the night hours of the person being called.         Another possible variation is that even without a code, simply         clicking for example on a phoning option near the displayed date         can immediately connect the user to that person without         disclosing at this stage the number itself. This has the further         advantage that this clicking option is available only to the         user, so there is no code that can be transferred to others. Of         course, such a “Phone proxy” system can be used also in other         Online computer dating services that want to allow the user to         get a list of dates which can all be reached immediately by         phone, so those that don't want to give the phone can use the         “protected phone” option. Although U.S. application 20020106066         filed on Feb. 5, 2001 by Swanson (published Aug. 8, 2002)         describes an anonymous telephone communications system, this         works differently because the Swanson method checks         compatibility after the request for voice communication is         initiated, which is less efficient. Also, it was published after         this feature was already included in the present invention. In         addition, preferably direct Voice communication over IP is         available whenever two clients are in chat mode using the IM         chat features if they have a sound card with a microphone. Of         course, various combinations of the above variations are also         possible.     -   10. Another problem in such constantly connected cellular         networks, and also for example in other constant Internet         connections, such as for example through cable TV companies or         through ADSL, a new definition is needed about what it means to         be “online”, otherwise everyone on those networks can be defined         as being online all the time (especially if the Instant         messaging client is configured to connect automatically when         starting an Internet connection). Therefore, at least in such         networks preferably the user is considered to be online for         example only if he has initiated or responded to any action         related to the Instant messaging client for example in the last         hour (or any other reasonable time) and/or is considered to be         off-line for example if he hasn't typed anything on the computer         for a certain time, etc. This means of course that preferably         the static and/or dynamic database is updated also according to         these activity rules and not only when a user activates or         deactivates the client or the connection. Another possible         variation is to use these or similar rules also in any type of         connection, as explained also in the definition of “Online” in         the definition section.     -   11. In cellular networks preferably the system contains also         additional features, such as for example being able to get a         special indication if someone is very near to the user, for         example within a certain radius. This can be accomplished for         example by using info from the cellular company's cells, and/or         by using this info directly from the phones, for example when         they become GPS enabled. This way the user can know for example         that some compatible date is very close to him/her (for example         by a special mark in his list of search results and/or in his         contactee list). Another possible variation is for example that         if the user sees someone that he/she likes and both have         cellular phones and are members of the system, then preferably a         certain optical or wireless signal generated by the phones         themselves can tell the user through the status if the person         next to him/her is available, and preferably the two phones can         exchange Id's or numbers automatically and/or the questionnaire         data directly and thus the client program can immediately run a         check (preferably through the server) to see how compatible the         two persons are. Preferably this is done by a short range         wireless technology, such as for example Bluetooth, since         Bluetooth technology will probably be standard on most cellular         phones within the next few years, but it can also be any other         short range wireless technology that is used or will be used in         the future, such as for example UWB (a pulse-based technology,         without a carrier-wave), which can easily compete with         Bluetooth. Another possible variation is that the client program         on each or at least on one of the phones or cellular devices can         run the matching between the user and the potential dates in the         immediate area without the need to access the server for this,         for example by running a local, preferably limited, version of         the matching program and preferably limiting the check to the         one or more relevant persons around. Therefore, this feature can         be used also independently of the IM network and/or of the         online dating service, for example by simply letting cellular         phones that are close to each other and are marked by their user         with the status “available for dating”—exchange data and/or         check automatically compatibility and alert the user anytime         he/she is close to someone available for dating and compatible.         A more limited implementation of this that does not even need a         real matching program is for example to use this method just to         let the user know that someone next to him/her is available for         dating, or use it for example with a minimum amount of data,         such as for example age, sex, education, etc. If the match is         sufficient, then preferably for example the user or each of the         matching persons gets at least a few minimal details about the         other person's appearance (such as for example Appearance,         Height, Body build, Hair length, Hair color, Hair shape, etc.,         and/or a picture, if available, or “approximate image” if         available, as explained below in clause 16, if no real picture         is available) in order to be able to try and match this with         what he/she sees around, and the other person's phone number (or         “proxy number”, as explained above, and/or an option to click         for example on a phone icon near the date's data and be         connected immediately), and/or be able to enter for example         immediate textual chat with the other person. This can be useful         for example at a university, on a bus, on a train, in shopping         malls, etc. Another possible variation is that the phone (or         other mobile device) can use for example the GPS of its own         position and the position of the potential date and use for         example its own north-west or compass direction, in order to         point to the user the direction and distance to the potential         date that was found, or for example use also geographical         information such as for example a street map (obtainable for         example from the nearby cells), in order to let the user know         more exactly the location of the potential date. Another         possible variation is that the cellular phones (or for example         palm or other relevant cellular or wireless devices, as         explained in the definitions) are able to exchange various         queries between them. For example each user can mark that out of         the large number of questions to choose from there are for         example 5 questions which he/she would like to know in advance:         for example, apart from is the other person available for         dating, what is his/her level of education, what is his/her main         area of work or study, etc. Preferably the user can also send         the query with additional specifications in order to increase         the chance that the reply will come from the right person. For         example in a bus or train or university cafeteria or library         there can be dozens or even hundreds of people within range. So         if for example it is a blonde girl that looks a certain age,         preferably the user can ask for example that only the devices of         blonde girls that are available for dating and within a certain         age limits reply. The query is then preferably transmitted by         the bluetooth (or other short range communication) to all the         devices in the vicinity that are in range, and each device         checks if its user is marked available for dating, and then if         he/she fits the definitions, before broadcasting the reply to         the question described above (such as for example is the person         available, what is his/her education, what is his/her field of         study or work, etc.). Preferably there is a different answer if         the person is not available than if he/she is not a member of         the system, otherwise a lack of reply could mean ambiguously         both of these possibilities. Another possible variation is that         the phone (or a preferably small and non-conspicuous add-on         coupled to the phone) enables the user to point his/her device         directly at the direction of the person that caught his/her eye,         which preferably transmits some Id code and/or the phone number         of the user who points it, and preferably sensors on that device         of the person that was pointed to can find out that someone         pointed the device and reply to the query directly with its own         Id and/or phone number, etc. This pointing device can be based         for example on infrared or on a directional short range wireless         antenna. (This can work also on other devices even without the         cellular network, such as for example palm devices that are         bluetooth enabled even if they are not connected to the cellular         network, or special gadgets for dating). However this is less         desirable, since at least some people might be embarrassed to         buy a special device for that and/or embarrassed to be seen         pointing the phone at someone. Another possible variation is to         implement it for example on the level of cells or groups of         cells, so that the cellular phones know that they are close to         each other for example by getting the information from the         cellular company's cells. Another possible variation is to run         the matching normally, but when dates are found that according         to the info from the cells and/or for example from the GPS         and/or for example from the bluetooth indication (or other short         range communication technology) are also very close to the user,         these dates are preferably for example marked with a special         conspicuous sign (for example in the search results list and/or         or in the contactee list) and/or moved to a special category on         top of the list of date search results and/or in the contactee         list, or their score for match on area is increased by a certain         factor and simply incorporated in the total compatibility score.         In this version, preferably dates that are close for example by         blutooth indication are given even a more emphasized mark and/or         moved higher to the top than dates who are only close by info         from the cells. Since for some users the level of compatibility         is much more important as long as the date is still within a         reasonable area, while for others the fact that someone is now         very close to them might be more important, preferably the user         can easily experiment with increasing and reducing the weight         given to the immediate vicinity factor. Also, for example people         looking for pen-pals will probably put much less weight on the         area. Another possible variation is that the system allows the         user also to request separate search results lists (and/or         contactee lists) according to area or marking for closer         people—also more generally, such as for example putting all the         people from the same country or state or town in a separate         category. Another possible variation is that if the server or         servers become for example too overloaded because of too many         users using the system, preferably different servers are used         for different areas and date searches are for example limited in         the size of areas that can be requested. Although PCT         application WO0115480 by Nokia, published Mar. 1, 2001 describes         the idea of indicating to users when a match is very near in         cellular networks, this clause 11 describes also many new and         different variations. Also the Nokia patent did not refer to         instant messaging. Of course, various combinations of the above         variations are also possible.     -   12. Preferably if someone hasn't entered the system for a         certain time period, such as for example a few months (and/or if         someone else fills a for example a “freeze form” or some other         form of report about that person, reporting that the person said         that it is no longer relevant), the server can preferably         generate an automatic message to him/her (for example through         e-mail or instant message) to ask for example if he/she is still         interested in compatible dates, and if the person confirms this,         or if no reply comes back for example after a certain period         and/or preferably after sending more reminders, the person is         preferably automatically “frozen” (so that people no longer         receive him/her in the searches) until there is another         indication (for example if he/she enters the system, or performs         a new search, or updates the data, etc.). Preferably, the freeze         form contains also the reason (such as for example the person         found someone through the service, found someone elsewhere,         found someone through the service and got married, found someone         not through the service and got married, etc.). Another possible         variation is that the system ignores the “freeze form” (that was         filled by someone else) if the user has been active very         recently or is currently Online, and especially if he/she         performed a dating-related activity such as for example         conducting a date-search recently. Another possible variation is         that the system does not ignore the freeze form if the reason is         more significant, such as for example the person got married         according to the report. By using this feature the weight given         to the recency data can be significantly reduced since this can         significantly decrease the chance that the potential dates found         will be no longer relevant, even if their data is older. (of         course if the user fills a freeze form about himself/herself,         then there is no problem).     -   13. In one of the possible embodiments, preferably when the         matching is done, the matching program (which is preferably on         the server or servers), can take into account at least in some         questions (preferably except in questions where the user marked         the question as “necessary”) also the distance between what was         requested and what was found. For example, if the user wanted a         date that is only “Highly above average” in appearance and an         otherwise highly compatible date rated herself as just “above         average” in appearance”, the number of points taken down because         of this mismatch can be lower than if the date rated herself as         “average”. This is preferably implemented especially for example         in ordinal scale questions which are also subjective in nature,         since in such questions the replies both in self description and         in the requested ideal date should preferably be taken with         caution. Preferably, this distance function can in some cases         take into account also the direction of difference, and regard         the distance differently depending on this direction. For         example, if the user wants someone who only has a post secondary         education and the date has a B.A., the “damage” to the user         should be much smaller than if the user only has highschool         education. A more extreme variation of this that the system         automatically complements the wanted scale upwards at least in         some of these cases where it clearly makes no sense to ask for         something bad and not mark also better options, however this is         preferably done with caution since my own research has shown         that in many cases users still insist on the “unreasonable         reply” even when confronted with it. However this more extreme         variation is not needed when the users fill the questionnaire         online, since the filling program itself can warn them about         such illogic request, and if they still insist then so be it.         Another possible variation is that when taking the distance into         account the system preferably takes into account also the         distance from the optimal level (or levels), so that for example         if the user marked that he/she wants a date with appearance         average or above but marked for example higher preference for         “average” than for “above average” and for “much above average”,         then the “damage” caused by a date who is below average is less         than for example if the user marked a lower preference for         “average” then for the higher options.     -   14. When matching by area, some computer dating systems today         match by letting the user mark his/her own area (for example         town, state and country), and also a list of areas from which         the potential dates can be, and some match instead for example         by zip code. However, using the zip code alone is problematic         because zip codes depend on many things and do not necessarily         translate to actual distances. For example in Australia a small         difference in zip numbers can represent a huge distance,         compared for example to Honk Kong where it can represent much         smaller distances. A better solution is to use matching by         selected areas, and use other info such as for example the         absolute difference from subtracting two zip numbers only as a         supplement. So preferably the difference in zip codes is used         only when the date is in one of the requested areas. Another         possible variation is to take the zip code into account when the         date is outside the requested area, in a way similar to the         distance function described in clause 13 above. Anyway, this can         work only within countries since the zip system can be different         between countries. Another possible variation is to use for         example the first few digits of the phone numbers (or the         absolute difference (subtraction) between the numbers) instead         or in addition to zip data. However this is problematic since it         does not help for example if people give a cellular phone         instead of their stationary phone number. Preferably this is         used in addition to the variation of using proximity data         described in clause 11. Another possible variation is to use         directly absolute Geographical location information, such as for         example GPS coordinates, for example directly from each user's         IP address, since this Geographical Location will be probably         available in the next generation Internet. This is much more         reliable and exact than zip code. Another possible variation is         to still use this together with the areas selected by the users.         Of course various combinations of the above variations are also         possible.     -   15. Preferably the user can also request from the system to         notify him/her automatically whenever there is a new potential         date that entered the system and has a higher compatibility with         him/her than at least one criterion (such as for example higher         than the lowest compatibility score in his/her current contactee         list, or higher than an absolute minimal score defined by the         user), or fulfills a certain condition, for example, all blondes         with big bust and high IQ. Another possible variation is that         this is done for example automatically by default unless the         user requests otherwise. This is better than the state of the         art, where the user gets a list only at certain times (such as         for example once a month or, when he/she himself initiates a         search). This can be applied for example when the new person         submits his/her data for the first time to the system or         performs a compatibility search for the first time, and         preferably the user can ask either to be notified for example         whenever such a new person exists in the static database, (if         there is a static database), or only when that user is also         Online (Of course when submitting the questionnaire or         performing the search the new person is by definition Online,         but the user that wished to be notified might be for example         offline at that time and when he/she comes back Online the new         person might be offline already). This can be done for example         by keeping pending search requests (preferably only one         search-request or up to a few pending search requests permitted         per person) and/or keeping the minimum criterion for that person         on his/her record on the server (for example the lowest score on         the list that he/she got so far and/or the lowest score on his         contactee list so far), and for example when the new person         sends his/her data for the first time or requests a search or         changes the data (but for efficiency reasons most preferably         this is done only or mainly when the new user requests a         search), a reciprocal search is performed on all the potential         mates in the system, and while checking the new person's data         against each relevant potential mate in the system, the server         preferably also checks if a condition has been fulfilled that         requires sending the appropriate notification or update to the         person against which the new person's data is being checked.         This may sound a bit inefficient but preferably it has only a         relatively small effect on the search speed, since various         optimizations can be performed anyway such as for example         stopping the comparison with a given person immediately for         example if the area doesn't fit or the age doesn't fit.         Preferably the user can also choose for example if he/she wants         to be notified by an e-mail and/or instant message and/or by         automatically having the new persons be inserted into his/her         list of contactees (This choice can be made for example in         general, or depending on the case, so that for example the user         requests that someone be added automatically into his/her         contactee list only in cases of especially high matching).         Preferably the new person also has the choice in advance if         he/she wants to be inserted automatically into the contactee         lists of relevant people or at least for example into the         contactee lists of the persons that appear in high places         his/her list of date-search results and/or fit one or more other         criteria or conditions. This saves a lot of time and increases         the chance for instant connection, especially if the new person         prefers for example that the other dates contact him/her         (females for example tend more than males to prefer to wait for         someone to contact them). When the user is a member through         cellular phone and not currently Online, another possible         variation is to notify the user also for example preferably by         sending an automatic ring signal to the phone and then         displaying the message, or for example sounding a voice message,         or for example by SMS. Preferably by clicking on an icon or         option near the user's data the user can than automatically         enter for example chat mode with the person or initiate an         automatic call to the person (Preferably without knowing the         actual number at this stage—at least if the new person requested         the “Proxy-phone” method, or with the actual number). This can         be used also for example whenever someone highly compatible         enters within Bluetooth range from him/her or is close according         to the information from the cells, or for example from the GPS,         and then preferably the user is also given data that can help         him/her locate the person for example by showing the appearance         data that are available, and/or giving the user more precise         location data, such as for example pointing him/her to the         direction and distance of the potential date, and/or giving for         example street information, as explained above in clause 11         (However, this is intended mainly for locating someone on the         street, and preferably not for giving the exact address where         he/she lives, so that the actual address from the potential         date's questionnaire is preferably not given to the user even if         available. Also, preferably users can request to block this         feature so that potential dates that get their data will not be         given pointers to their exact location). Another possible         variation is that for example instead of sending the         notification preferably as soon as possible after the new date         becomes available, the system waits for example until one or         more such highly compatible dates become available and if they         do (for example 2 or 3 or 10 such dates are now available) then         the message is preferably sent immediately, otherwise the system         preferably waits a certain time limit, for example until one         hour or for example up to a few hours or for example up to a few         days, and if no additional highly compatible dates that meet the         criteria become available, then the message is preferably sent         anyway (The maximum time till the notification is sent and/or         the minimum number of highly compatibles dates that forces         sending even before the time limit has been reached can         preferably be defined for example by the user and/or         automatically by the system). However this is less preferable         since the idea of instant dating is best served by instant         notification for each new such date without waiting for an         additional time or additional dates. As explained in the patent         summary, another possible variation is to use a similar         notification for letting the user know when a compatible date         that is already on his contactee list and/or on his         compatibility search results list becomes online: When the user         is using the client program preferably the program indicates to         the user visually and/or by an attention getting sound when a         compatible date that is on the contactee list (and/or for         example on the list of compatibility search results) becomes         online. Another possible variation is to use for example a more         attention-getting notification at least for dates that the user         marked as especially important to him/her or requested to be         especially notified about them. Another possible variation is         that if the user himself/herself is not currently Online, the         user can be automatically notified for example by SMS or by         email or by phone call when such a date becomes online or for         example at least for dates which the user marked as especially         important to him/her or requested to be especially notified         about them. Of course, various combinations of the above         variations are also possible.     -   16. Since practice shows that most people in computer dating         services, including Online services, don't like to send their         pictures (Typically for example only less than 10% or even just         5% send their own photo) but prefer to search dates that have         pictures, preferably the system allows users to use a systematic         data pool of pictures (which can be for example a taxonomy or         hierarchy), preferably with real photographs (for example         hundreds of pictures of male faces, hundreds of pictures of         female faces, and similar separate sets for body shapes) and to         choose at least one face that is most similar to the way they         look and preferably also at least one body shape that is most         similar to the way they look (preferably the marking is on a         scale, so that the user indicates also how much he is similar to         that picture or image), and preferably also mark similarly the         kinds of appearances they would most like in their ideal date         (for example by marking the pictures that they most like,         preferably with the ability to indicate the level of liking on a         scale). Preferably there are more faces to choose from than body         shapes, since there is much more possible variation in faces.         Another possible variation is to use preferably carefully drawn         images, which makes it easier to control more systematically         various variables (or for example some photos and some drawings,         etc.). If drawn images are used then preferably these are         automatically generated by the computer (for example completely         automatically or with the use in part of at least some manually         drawn elements and/or photographs and/or parts of photographs,         etc.). This has the advantage that a large number of images can         be easily made automatically and systematic in advance and/or on         the fly, and also the analysis of these images is automatic         since the system knows exactly according to which parameters         each image was generated. Preferably the generated images look         realistic—almost like a photo, and not like outlines. Another         possible variation is to make the choices (for example both for         self description and for description of the ideal date) more         modular than just body and faces, thus allowing the users to         create more combinations. For the more modular choices,         preferably either the users are shown the modular elements         (facial parts and/or body parts) separately, and/or the user can         for example mark or choose each time such one or more elements         within preferably full faces and/or preferably full body images         (or for example within partially full faces and/or partially         full body images), for example mark or otherwise indicate that         he/she wants a date with a hair and/or eyes similar in shape         and/or in color to that element in a given image or a given         photo (or in a group of images or photos), and then the system         preferably changes the image accordingly and/or for example         brings the user to the appropriate place in the taxonomy, and/or         for example generates the relevant part of the taxonomy on the         fly and/or displays multiple similar images next to each other.         Especially if the images used are images that are systematically         generated by the computer, then the choices can for example be         automatically generated on the fly for the user according to         his/her previous choices. This has the advantage that it is much         easier for the user to view holistic variations than to view         disconnected parts in order to choose which parts to put in the         desired images. For example the choice of the preferred images         in the taxonomy can be by clicking on the part of the face or of         the body that the user most likes and then the system         automatically knows where to proceed according to that part, so         that for example by clicking on a certain part in a certain         image the user both chooses the desired image and a specific         element in it. (Another possible variation is that if the user         for example clicks on the hair, then the system can for example         ask the user if he/she wants to view more images with the same         or similar hair color, the same or similar hair style, the same         or similar hair length, or any combination of the above, or for         example view similar images where these elements are different,         for example the hair is more blonde, etc. In other words, the         system can ask the user for example if he wants a specific type         of choice about that element or any combination of the available         types of choices for that element. One possible variation is         that for example by clicking for example on the hair with one         mouse button the user can request to see more images with         similar hair and by clicking with another mouse button the user         can choose for example to change the element and/or what to         change in the for example hair and/or can use for example the         scroll button of the mouse (and/or for example the arrows and/or         other keys) in order to have the chosen element or elements—for         example various hair styles or colors—change instantly on the         same image, preferably across the various available options.         However, this is of course just one possible variation and many         additional variations are also possible. Preferably for defining         his/her own appearance the user uses more the functions of         changing various modular elements until the right appearance is         selected, and for defining the desired date preferably the user         uses more the functions of showing similar appearances, since         when defining preferences typically there is a large range of         variations or types that the user may like). Another possible         variation is for example to allow the user to drag or push or         pull various parts of the image for example with the mouse, for         example to make some element wider or thinner or smaller or         bigger or other changes or move it, except that preferably the         system allows only reasonable or acceptable changes or changes         that are within the allowed set of variations and for example         avoids any distortions that would be considered unnatural. Of         course it is also possible for example to let the user view         during the selection process a composite image that includes         both the selected body and the selected face, so that the         changing or scrolling across options of modular elements occurs         on the fly over this composite image of body and face. This is         also important because it is very difficult to properly cover         appearance, which is holistic, by a few analytic questions. So         by using this method we overcome both the problem that only few         users are willing to submit their photographs and the problem         that it is hard to sufficiently cover appearance by analytical         questions. Preferably when this additional info is available it         is used for the scoring of compatibility in appearance in         addition to the normal textual questions about appearance.         Preferably when there is no direct match between marked self         image (of the other person) and marked preferences in these         images (a direct match is for example if the user marked that he         wants females who look like any of systematic female photos         numbers 520, 700, 819, etc. and the potential female date marked         herself as similar to one of these photos, and preferably the         matching takes into account also the scale of how similar that         female marked herself to the photo and/or how much the user         marked that likes the photo, in order to further refine the         matching score on this), the system takes into account a also         the distance or similarity between the preferred and the actual         image, preferably based on the systematic classification of the         images according to various variables. Preferably this analysis         is done on the distance between the images that were marked by         the user as preferred images and the image or images that were         marked by the date as most similar to himself/herself (and of         course preferably the relevant parameters of each image are         coded in advance as numeric data so that no actual image         analysis is done during the compatibility search). Of course, if         reciprocal compatibility is used then preferably the test for         direct match on marked images (and also such analysis of         distance or similarity if it is used), is done both ways, once         based on the user's preferences and once based on the date's         preferences. On the other hand the variation of checking only if         there is a direct match or not, without analyzing the distance         if there is no direct match, can be much more efficient. If such         an analysis is used and if the date submitted also an actual         photo then another possible variation is to run such an analysis         of distance or similarity in addition or instead also with the         actual photo, however this option might be much less efficient         and might also be less reliable unless the system is able to         automatically analyze the actual photos supplied by the users at         a high level. Similarly, another possible variation is to check         the similarity to an actual photo supplied by the person, if is         it available, for checking if there is a direct match, however         that might be again much less efficient, since, in contrast,         checking if there is a match between images from the systematic         pool marked by the users is preferably based on just checking if         there is an overlap in a small list of picture serial numbers.         However, the efficiency of dealing with actual photos submitted         by the users can be considerably improved if they are analyzed         in advance and coded according to various parameters so that         during the actual matching run only these codes are used, as         explained below. So for example when an actual photo supplied by         the user is available the actual photo can be used to correct         when needed the marking by the user of how similar he/she is to         the pictures of the systematic pool (or even instead of the         marking by the user), and then in the actual matching run         preferably only the corrected marking is used. But, as explained         above, this might be in fact less reliable than using the marks         made by the users unless the automatic analysis is very         sophisticated, since automatic intelligent analysis of photos         can be very problematic. When a potential date's data is         displayed, and when no real picture of the date is available,         preferably this “approximate image” is displayed instead. This         has the additional advantage of saving bandwidth and saving         space and load on the server, because for approximate images it         is sufficient to transfer just some numerical codes. Preferably         these pictures or images are small and are downloaded         automatically as part of the client, so that viewing them does         not overload the server. (Preferably they can also be         automatically updated sometimes by the server when needed, like         the other updates described above in clause 7). For efficiency         reasons, preferably when letting the user mark choices many         images are displayed on the screen together, as long as they         don't become too small to discern the important details. Another         possible variation is that the user is preferably asked to make         choices in a tree-like manner—for example choose first between a         number of images and then refine the choices based on the         previous choices (For example the user can be shown at first for         example 12 images which are typical of various main branches in         the taxonomy, and after he chooses one or more preferred         branches he is shown at the next step for example 9 images that         are typical each of a main sub-branches of the chosen one or         more branches, etc. However this is just one example and many         other variations of this are also possible). When the choice is         made for self description preferably the user can choose only         one answer on each step in the tree (However, as explained above         another possible variation is that even in this case the user         can mark at least in some stages more than one option, for         example if he thinks that he is sufficiently similar to more         than one image), and when the choices are made for the desired         date preferably the user can mark multiple options at least in         some of the stages. (Preferably at least the top of the decision         making tree may contain textual descriptions and/or explanations         instead or in addition to images). Another possible variation is         that preferably the user first fills the textual questions about         appearance and then the system displays the graphic choices         already based on the textual information about the self         description and about the desired date. This narrows down the         choices that have to be made and the number of images that         actually need to be displayed and thus increases the efficiency.         This way even if thousands of images are available to choose         from, the choices can still be made very quickly and very         efficiently. Another possible variation is that this is used         even with users that do send a photo, in addition to the photo,         because of the above described advantages in comparison to just         using photos. Another possible variation is, instead or in         addition, to use similar methods with the actual photos that are         supplied by users, so that for example if the user browses         through photos of opposite sex users, he/she can for example         request to view for example more photos (or all photos) that are         similar to a certain photo (or more than one photo) that he         likes and then the system automatically shows him those photos,         for example sorted by descending order of similarity to that         photo (or photos), and/or to use this as one of the criteria for         the automatic matching. However that can be more difficult to         implement since it might require almost Al analysis of the         photos to determine how similar each two photographs are. Since         there can be a number of possible parameters or dimensions on         which the similarity is based, the system can assume for example         that the most similar pictures are those which have a highest         total similarity score across the various dimensions or         parameters, or for example the system can search among the         available photos for a list of similar photos based on one or         more different parameters each time, and then decide according         to the user's following responses which dimensions are actually         more important for him. For example the system can find by trial         and error and/or by asking the user that after finding for the         user a list of female pictures that are most similar (according         to various parameters) to a certain one or more previously         marked pictures, the user actually likes mostly the pictures         with the same hair style and the same hair color, and for         example does not really care about many other parameters.         Another possible variation is that the user asks for similar         pictures for example by clicking on the relevant body part or         face part and then the system looks for images who have a         similar corresponding part (for example similar hair, similar         bust shape and size, etc.). Another possible variation is that         in this case the system can for example ask the user if he/she         wants for example similar hair color, similar hair style,         similar hair length, or any combinations of the above. Another         possible variation is to create an automatic analysis of these         parameters by looking for the common features among the pictures         which the user initially marks as most desired. (With the         systematic pool of pictures the automatic analysis of similarity         between pictures is not needed since each user indicates the         pictures to which he or she is most similar, however, as         explained above, another possible variation is that for users         that included an actual photograph of themselves such automatic         analysis is also used in addition to or instead of the user's         own rating, in order to further improve the reliability of this         subjective ranking, if such an automatic analysis is itself         sufficiently reliable). Another possible variation is that the         systematic pool prepared in advance is used mainly for the         automatic scoring of compatibility, and the request for photos         similar to a actual user's photo is used more for browsing, for         example if the automatic scoring of similarity between two         photographs is not reliable enough. On the other hand,         preferably similar browsing of actual user photos can also be         requested for example for photos that are similar to any of the         systematic photos that the user marked as desirable, and in this         case the system can use for example the users' own ranking of         similarity, so that for example the system lets the user browse         all (or some of) the photos of females which marked themselves         as similar to the desired photos that the user marked,         preferably in a descending order of similarity according to how         similar the female marked that she is to that photo. In any of         the above variations where the actual photos supplied by users         are also taken into account, preferably the photo is         automatically analyzed in advance after the user submits it         according to various parameters in order to convert it into         numerical codes, so that during the actual compatibility search         and/or during searching for similar photos preferably only these         numerical codes are used. (Another possible variation is to make         such analysis for example by principles of holography, so that         for example each photo is coded in advance according the results         of its holographic processing, but, again, this can be very         problematic if for example various light or shade effects change         the way that someone looks, so intelligent analysis is         preferably for this). Another possible variation is to allow the         user for example to supply an actual photo and have it converted         automatically by the system to an approximate image so that the         approximate image is similar to him/her but not exactly the same         and preferably looks like one of the systematically drawn         images. This can be used preferably in order to protect the         user's privacy, so that after the conversion the database         preferably contains only the converted approximate image, and so         at least for example for users who prefer not to expose their         actual photo, this image is preferably shown next to their data         instead of their actual photo, thus making more users willing to         submit their actual photos. In this case, preferably for users         who do not refuse to reveal their actual image, preferably the         actual image is shown in addition or instead of the         automatically generated approximate image and/or the approximate         self image which the user selected from the systematic pool of         images. Of course, various combinations of the above variations         are also possible. Another possible variation is to use these         approximate images (and/or real photos when available) to create         Virtual Reality environments where users can “meet”. Another         possible variation is to allow the users for example also to         choose from preferably modular clothing items, for example for         the virtual reality implementation and/or for the approximate         image that is displayed near their data. Of course, the         approximate image that is displayed near the user's data and/or         is used in virtual reality meetings preferably includes both the         body and the face, preferably combined properly. Another         possible variation is that the actual photo and/or the         approximate image can appear also near each entry in the         contactee lists (for example by default or if the user requests         it) and/or the user can mark or indicate which photo or image         should appear near each contactee if more than one option is         available (for example if there is both an approximate image and         an actual photo and/or if more than one photo is available. This         can be for example marked explicitly by the user or for example         the system remembers automatically the last photo that the user         chose to display for example when he/she last accessed that         person's data). Another possible variation is that for example         if more than one image is available (for example more than one         photo and/or more than one approximate image) then more than one         preferably small image is automatically shown for example near         the potential date, for example in the search results list         and/or in the contactee list. (For displaying for example         smaller photos before the user clicks on one of them to see it         in larger size, the images can for example be automatically         downscaled in size and resolution. Another possible variation is         that, in addition or instead, the image is automatically         truncated, and for example various heuristics are used in order         to find the central point of interest automatically, such as for         example finding the human face in the image, starting         automatically from the geometrical center, etc.) Another         possible variation is to use for example similar methods and/or         automatic analyses for example on sound, so that for example the         user can scroll over various parameters of preferably         synthesized speech (and/or for example a systematic set of         recordings of real voices, and/or for example real voices that         are manipulated by the computer to reflect different parameters,         such as for example different pitch, etc.) in order to select or         choose a voice similar to his/her own voice and/or types of         preferable voices in the preferred dates (for example the         desired pitch and/or other characteristics), and the system can         for example use this as additional selection criteria. In this         case, if an actual recording of the user is available, this is         preferably analyzed automatically according to the relevant         criteria and used in addition to or instead of the systematic         sounds to which the users refer. Of course, all the analyses are         preferably done in advance so that during the actual matching         run preferably only numerical codes are used. Also, similarly         the user might for example browse potential dates and request to         view for example potential dates with a similar voice to a voice         that he/she likes. Another possible variation is that for         example to encourage people to upload their pictures, people who         did not upload at least one acceptable picture of themselves         cannot view at all the pictures of others, or for example they         can view only the first picture of each potential mate even when         that mate has for example uploaded a few pictures (preferably         with an indication that additional pictures of this user are         available to users who have uploaded their own picture, etc.),         and/or for example see the pictures of other members only for         example in smaller format and/or for example in lower resolution         and/or for example each picture appears with a missing or         blocked part in it (or for example the blocked part contains the         message inviting the user to upload his/her own photo so that he         can see the full images undisturbed), etc. (this way the user         knows better what he/she is missing). Of course, various         combinations of the above and other variations are also         possible.     -   17. Another problem, that exists both in IM networks and in         Online dating service, is that many times the same user enters         the system under more than one identity, for example because         he/she forgot his/her login and/or password, or because he/she         wants to get again a free bonus that is offered only to new         users, or because he/she wants to experiment with a few         different identities, or other reasons. However, this can create         a number of problems, such as for example making it hard to know         how many real people are actually in the system, the possibility         that a user will get someone on the list or lists of compatible         dates more than once, with different compatibility scores each         time, and making it hard to determine if a user is really new or         not in systems where for example a user gets one free list and         then has to pay for the next, or for example if the method of         “proxy phone” is used, since by using different identities users         can cheat the number of limitations. Therefore, preferably the         system uses various heuristics in order to try to automatically         catch suspect duplicates: For example, if the e-mail starts with         the same or a very similar name on the left side of the “@”         and/or if the name is similar and the birth date is the same or         very similar, preferably the system checks if other data are         also similar (such as for example area and other important         background data, or for example some numerical function of the         general similarity between the suspected duplicate profiles),         and then automatically decides if the data is similar enough to         decide that it is the same person. If it is, then the system         preferably automatically uses the new data as an update of the         older data and preferably also notifies the user about it. If         the system is less sure, then preferably it asks the user if         he/she is indeed the same person and/or reports it to a log for         human decision and/or warns the user for example that various         sanctions will be taken against people who deliberately try to         mislead the system. Of course, in order to check similarity         efficiently preferably the system uses sorting and/or an index         in order to cluster together the relevant similar items that         have to be compared. In addition, preferably the system uses         also statistical considerations, which can be for example based         on direct statistics from the Database, so that for example if         the suspect duplicate is with a rare user name it is considered         more significant than if is for example a very common name, etc.         Of course, like other features of this invention, these features         can be used also independently of any other features of this         invention, so that for example this or similar methods can be         used for example also in normal IM networks even if they are not         related to dating, for example in order to find duplicate         records of IM users, and preferably if the user for example         still prefers to get a new user number in the IM network, the         system can for example automatically import all the contactees         from his/her previous IM user number or numbers (which were         properly identified as duplicates) to the contactee list of the         new user number and/or for example send an automatic update to         other IM clients which have that user on their contactee lists         with the automatic change in the user's IM user number, etc.     -   18. Another possible variation is to use the data from the         compatibility questionnaires filled by the users to create         “group compatibility”—which means creating a group of compatible         people. One of the possible ways to accomplish this is for         example by running the following algorithm with at least some of         the following steps: 1. First one or more individual is chosen         that fulfill some required criteria. 2. Assuming that for         example one female was chosen, the computer preferably now finds         one or more males highly or most compatible with her (preferably         by reciprocal compatibility) and adds them to the group (This         finding of most compatible dates can be done on the fly or by         using for example the previously generated list of most         compatible dates that each person has). 3. For each of the males         last added to the group the computer preferably now finds one or         more of the females highly or most compatible with them (on         condition that they are not already in the group) and adds them         also to the group. 4. The computer now preferably finds one or         more of the highly or most compatible dates for each of the         recently added females, then for the newly added males, and so         on, until the required group size has been reached. When finding         the highly or most compatible date or dates for each newly added         member, the computer can for example either take each time the         next most compatible date for that person, or take into         consideration for example also how compatible the new candidate         is with the other members of the opposite sex that are already         in the group (for example on average). This is useful for         example for creating meetings or parties or virtual meetings for         groups with high group compatibility. Of course this is just an         example and many other variations or combinations can also be         used.     -   19. Another problem is that to the best of my knowledge in the         state-of-the-art computer dating systems there are no provisions         for logical relations between the various questions other than         logical “AND”. In other words, although each question can         preferably be given an importance level (or 0 importance) by the         user, the default relation between each two questions is         automatically only “AND”, so that the system by definition         lowers the score for the potential date if he/she fulfills only         some of the requested traits of non-zero importance to the user.         This does not allow the user to define also alternate relations         between the various questions (or traits), such as for example         “OR” relations or “IF” relations. So preferably the user is also         allowed to define such relationships. For example, if some girl         wants guys that have a white-collar job such as for example         Medical Doctors, Lawyers, Accountants, Engineers, etc., and         wants that the guy will be someone who works in any of these         fields but does not care which of them it is, there is no way to         define this in normal computer dating systems, since marking for         example a high importance that the guy will be someone working         in each of these jobs will lower the score to anyone that works         only in one of these areas and not in all of them. So preferably         the user is allowed to add an “OR” mark to each member of the         requested group of traits or for example graphically pull them         together into a common area. Another example is if the girl for         example wants only someone who is interested mainly in the         Humanities fields of interest or mainly in Technical fields of         interest, etc. Preferably, defining an “OR” relationship does         not override the “AND”, so that if the potential dates satisfies         more then one of the questions in the “OR” group, a special         bonus is added to the score. (Another possible solutions is, of         course, for example to add additional questions, in this         example, about wanting someone with a white-collar status and/or         about higher levels of categorization of fields of         interest/vocation, but obviously this would not really solve the         problem since individual users might want specific combinations         that are specifically important to them, and the questionnaire         cannot incorporate in advance all such possible special         requests). An “IF” relation is needed for example if the user         wants to define that some condition can be for example         automatically relaxed or tightened if another condition is met.         For example, a user might define with Absolute importance that         the date will have a high IQ and also define with Absolute         importance a minimum Education of M.A., but for girls that have         an extremely high IQ he is willing to accept them also for         example if they have only a B.A. Or someone for example wants in         general only thin or medium-weight girls, but if they have a         very large bust he is willing to accept also fat girls. Or for         example someone can define that he/she wants a date that         actually works in music only if that date also marked in the         questions that deal with music for example that he/she likes         music of the 60's and 70's and not classical music. So         preferably, for such cases the system allows the user to define         also such dependencies, for example by letting the user define         at the end of the questionnaire a set (or sets) of rules that         can create changes in various requirements in case certain other         requirements are met. This can be accomplished for example by         letting the user graphically connect certain different         variations of filling a certain question with certain options in         another question, or for example allowing the user to define a         set of “If then” sentences for example after finishing the         normal filling of the questionnaire. This way the users can have         much more flexibility in defining more complex relationships         between various questions or sets of questions. However, the         ability to add “IF” relationships is less important than “OR”,         since “OR” relationships represent something that is very         different from the ordinary “AND”, whereas “IF” might typically         be needed only in a few rare cases. So for example in the music         example given above, the user might simply mark with high         importance that he/she wants someone who likes music of the 60's         and 70's and not classical music and also mark with high         importance that he/she would like a potential date that works in         music, and this already increases the chance of getting a date         who satisfies both requirements. Another possible variation is         that the questionnaire can contain at least one or a few         questions that are variable for example according to Country,         culture and/or religion and/or other significant relevant         background parameters, so that for example certain cultures or         religions can have a few specific questions that are relevant         only to these cultures or religions. Preferably such questions         are taken into consideration only among users who have both         answered them and/or who both belong to the relevant group or         groups, and are preferably ignored for checking the         compatibility between people that are across such groups. Of         course, various combinations of the above and other variations         can also be used.     -   20. Another preferable variation is that when the user makes         changes in one or more questions, he/she is preferably         immediately allowed by the system to see for example an         indication of the direction and extent of the change in results         that this will cause. This can be done for example by         automatically running the user against other potential dates         upon each change in a question, but for efficiency reasons         preferably this can be done for example by using general         statistics of the answers by the opposite sex members to each         question. So for example if the user first marks that he wants         girls with medium or large bust and he had for example 500         hundred potential dates with compatibility scores above 80%, and         then changes it to include only girls with large bust, or         changes for example the requirements for high intelligence         and/or changes the importance for these questions, the system         can for example predict immediately more or less some general         estimate of the amount of increase or decrease in the number of         potential dates this is likely to cause (by simply using for         example the statistics of the percent of girls that will be         dropped by this change, preferably together with an estimate of         the amount of drop or increase in scores that each level of         importance marked by the user typically causes) and display it         for example graphically to the user. Of course, this estimate         can be wrong, but in general it can preferably give a rough         estimate of what will happen after the changes, and then, for         example after finishing a group of changes, the user can request         an actual matching run and see the actual effect of the change.         Another possible variation is to give the user feedback of         results already during filling the questionnaire, so that for         example after filling each question the user is given for         example the choice to view similar information as described         above, preferably based on statistics, since otherwise it might         be very inefficient with a large database of potential dates.         Another possible variation is to allow the user to request a run         on potential dates for example after having filled only part of         the questionnaire, or at least after having finished a section         of the questionnaire (for example background data, appearance,         interests, etc) however in this case preferably there are         various restrictions, for example such as those described in         clause number 5 above, in order to encourage the user to         complete filling the questionnaire before he/she can gain full         access. In such a case preferably the questions are arranged,         for example within each section of the questionnaire, or across         the entire questionnaire, according to descending order of         importance (for example by using data from previous users), so         that the results can be more meaningful even after filling only         a subset of the questionnaire.     -   21.Another possible variation is to automatically analyze the         user's answers during filling the questionnaire, in order to         check the quality of his/her answers and preferably give the         user feedback if the answers are not reasonable enough. This         feedback can be given to the user for example during the filling         process and/or after he/she has finished it and/or at least         after various stages have been completed. Preferably the user's         answers can be rated for example based on the optimal levels         that he/she chooses, the acceptable levels on which he/she is         willing to compromise, and the importance he/she gives to the         question. So for example the user's choices can be defined as         sufficiently discriminating or distinctive or differentiating if         he/she has shown sufficient variation (for example in any of the         above criteria—such as for example different levels of         importance, various optimal levels or ranges, various acceptable         levels or ranges or at least in some of them) among his answers         about the various questions, if he/she has shown sufficient         resolution (for example if he/she used all the possible levels,         for example of characterization and/or all the possible         weights—preferably across the questions), and/or used a         sufficient range of levels (for example of characterization         and/or of weights). Another possible variable is         consistency—which checks for example if he/she used similar         characterizations and/or weights for questions which are known         to be similar or highly correlated. For example if someone wants         very smart females but wants them to have only low education, or         vice versa, this doesn't make sense. Another possible variable         is coherence, which means for example the correlation between         importance and the range of acceptable levels and the position         of the optimal level (or levels). For example the more important         a question is, the less reasonable it is to mark only levels in         the middle without reaching one of the extreme options (one of         the edges of the scale), although this might depend also on the         specific content of the question. Also, if the user for example         consistently uses high importance together with a wider range of         acceptable levels than in low importance questions, it can be         for example brought to his attention that this is not         reasonable. Or the user can be warned for example if he/she         gives too many questions absolute or high weight or gives too         many questions weight 0. In such cases, and preferably depending         on the case, the system can for example advise the user to         correct specific unreasonable answers and/or to correct answers         in general, and/or for example to consult with a human counselor         about this. Of course various combinations of the above and         other variations are also possible.     -   22. Although the system preferably requires the user to answer         all the questions in the compatibility questionnaire, another         possible variation is that, if the user did not answer some         questions, the system handles the missing values for example by         taking into account the average or most frequent answers in each         question that the user did not answer. However, if this is done,         preferably the system takes into account also the correlations         of each missing answer with other answers, thus taking into         account for example the other variables that are most in         correlation with the missing question, such as for example sex,         age, education, etc. Another possible variation is to give a         lower score for matching on missing values, in a way that         reflects the uncertainty. Of course various combinations of the         above and other variations can also be used.     -   23. Another problem with large dating sites is that only a small         percent of clients pay (typically just 10% or even considerably         less) and in order to extract payment the sites typically offer         only a very limited service to people who don't pay, so that for         example they cannot contact anyone and they can only be         contacted by the small percent of people who paid, and therefore         the total quality of service is much below the true potential.         This is typically because the sites try to charge too much from         each paying client, such as for example $15-20 per month.         Therefore, preferably the site charges a considerably lower fee         that can encourage much more people to pay for the service, for         example just $2 a month or $5 a month, and preferably the charge         is done for example automatically through the user's ISP         (Internet access provider), preferably without indicating to the         ISP that this is a charge for a dating site (in order to         preserve privacy), so that the user doesn't even feel the         payment. Another problem is that many users who have not paid         and are waiting for others to contact them, don't realize how         many of the others can't really contact them because said others         haven't paid either. Therefore, another possible variation that         can encourage the user to decide to become a paying member is         that he/she is given, preferably on a regular basis, for example         daily or weekly, relevant statistical details about it, such as         for example how many other matching dates have viewed his/her         data but were unable to contact him/her because they did not         pay, and/or for example based on real-time notification, for         example when a highly compatible match, according to one or more         criteria, views the user's data (In this case preferably the         user is for example shown the details of the person who has just         tried to contact him/her). Another possible variation is that         users are for example encouraged to pay by giving them a partial         experience, so that for example the user can contact dates even         if he/she didn't pay, but can for example send each potential         date only a limited number of messages if he/she did not pay         (for example just 1 or 2 or 3 messages). The logic in this is         that if a user has started for example an IM session with         someone and that person has indeed responded, then the user will         have a much higher motivation to pay if otherwise he/she can't         continue the IM session with that person, especially if the fee         is very low, as explained above). Of course, various         combinations of the above and other variations can also be used.     -   24. Another problem with instant messaging is that many times         users, and especially more popular users, are engaged in more         than one Instant messaging session at the same time, and/or have         one or more chat windows open, which means that they simply         cannot answer an additional user who has just sent them an         instant message, or take a long time to do so because they are         distracted by the other IM sessions and/or by one or more chat         windows. (An IM session typically means a window that shows the         history of the most recent exchange of messages between two         users and into which the new messages are added). This can be         very frustrating to the user who tries to send to such a user an         IM message, since the sending user often does not know if a lack         of response is because the other user is not interested in the         sending user in general, or for example because the other user         did not like the particular message sent, or for example because         the other user is engaged in other IM “conversations” and/or for         example in a chat window and/or in some other activity, or even         for example because the other user is marked as Online but is         not really near his computer. This problem is preferably solved         by at least one of the following solutions:         -   a. As explained above and below, preferably the user's             activity at the computer is taken into consideration, so             that if the user is not active for a certain time (for             example no mouse activity and no keyboard activity for more             than for example 5 or 10 or 20 minutes or any other             reasonable time), then the system can assume that the user             is not really Online and mark him/her as offline until such             activity resumes).         -   b. Preferably near each user or compatible date that is             online, the system preferably shows if he/she is currently             engaged in another IM session and/or chat with one or more             persons, and/or in how many such sessions he/she is engaged             and/or with how many other users. (This is preferably shown             automatically for example in the results list and/or in the             contactee list and/or when the user looks at the potential             date's profile, however another possible variation is that             preferably the user can for example turn this feature on or             off). (A session can be for example an open chat window, or             for example an IM window which is open and for example may             show the recent IM messages that have been exchanged, or for             example a sequence of IM messages to and/or from other             persons over a certain time period. Of course, this data is             preferably automatically gathered, preferably by the user's             IM client (and/or for example by the server), according to             the number of open sessions the user has, and/or over a             period of time of for example a few minutes or more. Another             possible variation is that if the user is in the middle of             typing something in a chat session with someone else or in             the middle of typing an Instant Message to someone else this             can be given even stronger weight, so that for example some             icon shows that he/she is actually typing a message to             someone else now). This can give the sending user a clear             indication if he/she has a good chance of getting a response             quickly or at all. Another possible variation is that the             system for example keeps (and of course preferably shows)             statistics for each user, such as for example to what             percent of IM messages (and/or for example also of normal             non IM messages) that user has responded, and/or his/her             average time for response. Another possible variation is             showing for example how many other people already added that             person to their contactee list through the dating service             and/or how many of them already sent messages to that person             so far (for example since he/she joined or for example in             the last month or any other convenient period) and/or how             many people from the dating service that person has already             added to his/her contactee list and/or has contacted so far             (Preferably these statistics are automatically also             normalized to include also a score that takes into account             also for example for how long that person has been in the             service (and/or for example how often he/she is active in             the dating search or in the related dating site, if the             service works also with a related dating web site), since             people who have been in the service for a longer time will             normally have more connections, and preferably this info of             how long the person has been in the service and/or how often             he/she is active in the dating-related activity of the             service is also shown near his/her details), so that the             user can estimate for example how much competition he/she             might face in each case. (Although the new dating site             webdate.com now automatically shows near each user profile             of a potential date also pictures which link to other people             which that potential date already added to his/her list of             preferred dates, and thus the user can also see how many             people that potential date has added to his/her list, this             is not admitted as prior art since this new dating site has             only existed since 2003 and it is not known when this             feature has been added to it, and the possibility of letting             users explore contactee lists of other users has already             been added to the present invention in clause 28 of the             reference to FIG. 1 a in the Canadian application of Dec.             29, 2003). Preferably the system can also give the sender of             an IM message for example a confirmation if and/or when the             IM message has reached the intended recipient and/or if             and/or when he/she has opened it and/or read it and/or if             he/she is currently typing a response to it (Although a             recent version of AOL's AIM can now let the user know when             the other person is typing a response to his Instant             Message, this is less useful than being able to know if             and/or when the other person has seen the message, since             when the other person is already typing a response, the user             will typically get it anyway within a moment, since instant             messages are typically very short by nature—for example one             or a few lines). Preferably for this preferably the             recipient's client (or for example his/her browser)             automatically sends back for example an automatic Instant             Message that indicates to the sending client that the             Instant Message has been opened and/or read by the receiving             user, and this is preferably indicated to the sender for             example by some icon and/or text and/or sound. Another             possible variation is that the system allows the sender for             example to cancel and/or correct an Instant Message after it             has already been sent—preferably as long as the recipient             has not opened it or read it yet (and/or this feature can be             for example limited in time, so that the correction or             canceling can be done for example only within a limited time             since it was sent). For making these cancellations or             corrections preferably the user can for example use some             back arrow to return to the last Instant Message or a recent             Instant Message and correct it and request to send it as a             replacement of the previous sending of that Instant Message             instead of a new Instant Message and/or request its             deletion, and the receiving client can then comply with the             request, for example if the receiving user has not read it             yet and/or the request is within the allowed time limit,             etc. Another possible variation is that for example during             real-time chat (in which each user can see as the other user             is typing for example on a split-window) and/or for example             in IM sessions where the user can see the history of his/her             previous messages and/or the messages of the other party,             the user can correct any errors for example in previous             messages and/or previous lines for example by simply using             for example the arrows and/or the mouse to reach a certain             place in the text and simply typing-in the correction, and             preferably this correction can be immediately updated also             in the corresponding text that shows for example on the             split-screen of the other user. (This can be accompanied for             example by some attention-getting mark or for example             momentary flashing at the place where the correction is             being made, in order to get the attention of the other             party). This is preferably limited only to messages that are             still on the same screen and/or for example only to messages             that have been recently typed, such as for example up to a             few minutes ago. Of course, like other features of this             invention, these features can be used also independently of             other features, such as for example also in IM applications             that are not related to dating.         -   c. Another possible variation is that preferably the sender             gets an indication when the user to which the IM message was             sent (and/or even for non IM messages) sees the message.             This can give the sender a clear indication if the user who             was sent the message does not respond because he/she has not             seen it yet or for example because he/she is not interested             in answering that message.         -   d. In addition, as explained below, preferably whenever a             user gets a new IM message he/she also gets an auditory             indication so that he/she can be aware of the message even             if he/she is currently distracted by other activities.             Another possible variation is that this auditory indication             includes for example in addition or instead a vocal message             by the system stating for example the nickname and/or other             identification of the user who sent the message, for example             “message from Sherry10 has arrived”, or “new message from             Sherry10”, or “you have a new message from Sherry10”, etc.             However, since such an auditory message can also be a             nuisance for some users at least some of the time,             preferably of course this feature can be turned off and on,             preferably easily.

Of course, various combinations of the above and other variations can also be used. In addition, like other features of this invention, the above solutions can also be used independently of any other features, for example also in normal IM networks that do not have dating features.

-   -   25. Another possible variation is to use similar methods to         determine if someone is “online” and/or to implement Instant         Messaging for example also in Interactive TV, if the dating         service is run for example in addition or instead over an         Interactive TV network. Of course, if the Interactive TV is         simply used as another way of accessing the Internet, then         automatically any features available on the Internet can also be         made available on the Interactive TV. However, most interactive         TV services today are still are a dedicated service that lets         the user access only the given one or more dedicated Interactive         channels. Anyway, in an interactive TV environment, regardless         of the question if the user has also direct access to the         Internet or not, there is still a significant problem of         defining if a user is Online or not, especially for example if         the user did not explicitly connect to the Internet and/or to         the interactive TV channel, but is indeed for example near the         TV or is watching TV. To determine if someone is currently         Online preferably the system uses at least one of the following         methods:         -   a. Preferably the Cable TV decoder or satellite decoder             (also called set-top-box) preferably senses any button that             the user presses on the remote control (preferably also if             the button broadcasts a signal intended for the TV set and             not for the decoder, such as for example the volume control,             and/or even senses for example if other remote controls are             used, such as for example the TV remote control or the VCR             or DVD remote control) and if any such button has been             pressed for example during the last 5 or 10 or 20 minutes             (or any other reasonable time period) the system preferably             assumes that the user is currently Online.         -   b. Another possible variation is that the decoder can sense             the signal of turning the TV on or off and assumes that             someone is “Online” if the TV is currently turned on.         -   c. Another possible variation is that the decoder senses if             the TV is currently on by sensing the electromagnetic field             emitted by the TV.         -   d. Another possible variation is that such or similar             detection features are integrated in the TV itself, but that             is less preferable since it is much easier to do it with the             set-top-box.         -   e. Another possible variation is that someone is considered             Online only if he/she is currently on the Interactive TV             channel. However, this option is less preferable since a             user can preferably be reached by the IM features over such             a network also if he/she is currently not on the same             Interactive channel (for example if he/she is currently on             another Interactive channel or for example is watching a             normal channel). However, preferably the users have an             option for example to disable interrupting them if they are             on another channel and/or if they are watching some normal             program.         -   f. Another possible variation is that the decoder has for             example a video camera and/or volumetric sensor and/or other             sensor or sensors that can sense automatically if someone is             moving in the room and/or is sitting in front of the TV.             However, this option is less preferable, since many users             might not agree to have a decoder that “spies” on them.     -   Of course, like other features of the present invention, the         above methods can also be used independently of other features         of this invention, for example as a methods for implementing an         automatic people-meter for rating of TV channels. (Although this         has the disadvantage that it does not identify specifically         which of the house members is using the TV, unlike special         equipment that allows users to signal which of the people in the         house is currently using the TV, this has the advantage that it         can be completely automatic and thus a much more reliable and         much large sample can be used than the typical sample of just a         few hundred or a few thousand households that get the special         equipment).     -   For implementing IM features over such a network, preferably the         system uses at least one of the following methods:         -   a. The user can receive instant messages preferably on the             screen, preferably at least when he/she is in the same             interactive channel. If the user is in another channel (for             example another interactive channel or a normal channel)             preferably the user can at least receive some preferably             non-interfering visual and/or auditory indication that an IM             message has arrived, such as for example some short beep             and/or some icon appearing for example at one of the corners             of the screen, and for example by jumping to the same             Interactive channel and/or by pressing some button for             example without leaving the current channel, the user can             view the message or messages and/or respond to it.         -   b. For sending IM messages preferably either the remote             control contains also letter keys and/or some additional             keyboard is available for this, and/or the IM messages can             be example vocal messages, preferably enabled by including a             microphone in the remote control so that preferably the user             can press some button to record a message, and preferably             there is also a speaker on the remote control, so that the             users can for example choose if to hear an auditory message             over the TV speakers or directly through the remote control.             Preferably, especially if the messages are through voice             communication, the users can continue to watch the program             undisturbed, so that for example two or more users can also             discuss this way for example the program that they are             watching, etc.         -   c. All IM messages over such an interactive TV networks are             preferably communicated or relayed through one or more             servers, since of course users are typically not connected             directly to each other.         -   d. Preferably the users can save contactee lists, preferably             on a nonvolatile memory storage for example on the             set-to-box and/or for example on the remote control.

Such features have the advantage that they can allow access also for example to people who don't have a computer and/or don't have a connection to the Internet. However, preferably the same database is also connected to the internet and preferably the IM implementations are also connected across these platforms, so that preferably people can find each other and/or contact each other no matter if they accessed the system through the Internet or through Interactive TV. Although AOL has recently added the ability to send and receive IM messages in an interactive TV network, as can be seen for example at http://www.skypublicity.co.uk/press d.asp?rel=380 and for example at http://www.howstuffworks.com/news-item36.htm, this is based on actively logging in into the AOL active service, and is actually based on accessing directly the Internet, like Microsoft's WebTV, and does not include the wider automatic definition of being online, as described above. Of course, various combinations of the above and other variations can also be used.

-   -   26. Another preferable improvement is speeding up the time         needed for filling the questionnaire. This is preferably done by         at least one of the following improvements:

a. Preferably the radio and/or checkbox buttons are defined as wider than their height, and their height is preferably increased just a little, so that without unduly large line-spacing the user can easily mark or unmark such areas without having to reach precisely the exact point in terms of right/left. This is preferably done with the new html “style” command near the button, for example “style=”width: 280 px; height: 30 px”. (The present inventor has not yet seen any Internet site that uses this command to create buttons that are wider than their height). As can be seen in the example of a question in FIG. 10, the elongated square (91) shows the area from which the radio button of the “self description” can be changed, the elongated squares (92) show the 2 areas from which the checkbox buttons can be changed, and the elongated square (93) shows the area from which the radio button of the importance can be changed. (Of course, this is just an example and other ratios and/or differences in sizes can also be used). However, it should be noted that currently for example MSIE (Microsoft Internet Explorer) and Netscape version only show the elongated square when the user actually clicks within it. It would be more preferable to change the actual implementation by the browsers so that for example the elongated squares are visible all the time, or even more preferably, they are visible whenever the mouse is within the area of one of them even before the user clicks on it, or for example only the specific square becomes visible when the mouse is within its area, even before clicking on it. This way the user can find more easily the borders of the clickable area each time. Another possible variation is to show for example the radio or checkbox button itself in the expanded form, as was done by Netscape 6.2, except that preferably the mark within it is also enlarged accordingly for example automatically, or for example the “style” command is expanded to include also the ability to define the size of the mark within the button. (In Netscape 6.2 the mark within the larger radio button is a miniature dot). Another possible variation is for example to allow the programmer to define a separate elongation to the right and to the left of the button. Of course this can be used for example also in combination with making clicking on the text near the checkbox or radio button also activate the button, preferably by using the “target” tag and an appropriate “onclick” command, for example: <a target=“_blank” class=“radio” onclick=“FormQuest.self[4] .checked =true;parent.q.question[2] .self=4”>Has M.A. degree or more</a> in addition to the radio or checkbox itself. However, this is less important, since clicking on the nearby text in order to mark the radio or checkbox button next to it is unnatural, so being able to click near the button instead of only in it is much more important. (Another possible variation is for example to add another html command and/or add for example one or more additional options for example to the “style” command, so that preferably the user can define for example the width of the area that will affect the button without causing the rest of the line to move away from it, which is what happens with the current “style” command. Another possible variation is for example to expand the command set of html and/or for example of Javascript, in order to enable for example overlapping frames, for example by letting the programmer define the screen coordinates of each frame. This can allow for example creating various layers over the same screen area. This can further increase the flexibility of using various effects, for example by being able to define which frame or which parts of it will be visible and/or take precedence over each area). (Another possible variation is that the html protocol is improved and/or the browser is improved and/or for example Javascript is used so that user can for example also unmark a marked radio button even without marking another radio button instead, for example by clicking the right mouse button over the radio button, or for example clicking the normal mouse button while pressing some key, or for example pressing some undo key, etc.).

b. Preferably the html command set and/or for example the Javascript command set is improved so that preferably it is possible to define which button (or buttons) will be activated by default for example if the user presses for example the Enter Key and/or for example the Space Key, so that for example in the case of FIG. 10 for example preferably the “Next Question” button is defined as the default button (so that the user can quickly move on to the next question without having to move the mouse to that button). Currently to the best of my knowledge there is no way to do this. (Although it is possible for example to define which button will be in focus, this changes immediately when the user clicks on anything else). So preferably there is added for example a command such as for example: <input type=button value=“Next Question” onclick=“parent.showNextQuestion” defaultby=“Char13, char32, PgDn”> Preferably such a command allows for example to associate any key or keys with any button (or at least for example some keys with some buttons), so that for example pressing page Down (PgDn) can also activate this button, and for example Page UP can be similarly associated for example with the “Prev Question” button in the example of FIG. 10. Of course, this is just an example, and many other forms of such commands might also be designed. Also, preferably if for example the PageUp and/or PageDown and/or arrow keys are not defined explicitly for some other specific action, preferably for example the html and/or Javascript and/or the browser are preferably defined so that by default they will cause the page to move up or down even if the focus is on a text field, unlike the prior art where the user would have to first click with the mouse outside of the text field. This is very convenient, since clearly if the user presses PageUp or PageDown or arrows even when the focus is still within a text field, the user probably wants to move up or down. Another possible variation is that for example the up and down arrows can be used for jumping between form field lines (unlike today, where only the Tab key and shift-tab allow movement between fields without having to use the mouse). However, preferably they can be defined for that anyway for example by the Javasrcipt or html programmer as explained above.

-   -   -   c. Another possible variation is to improve the command set             of the html and/or for example of Javascript, so that for             example pressing a button for more then a certain time             causes automatic repeat. So that for example by keeping the             “Next Question” button pressed in the example of FIG. 10 the             user can quickly browse forward through the questions and             for example by keeping the “Prev Question” button pressed in             the example of FIG. 10 the user can quickly browse backwards             through the questions (Of course, since these are virtual             buttons, the real button that is pressed in this case is             preferably the mouse button).         -   d. Another problem is that for example with the Javascript             questionnaire of FIG. 10 there can be various problems for             example with using Hebrew, since various parts in the code             are currently implemented differently from other parts and             implemented differently for example in Netscape and in MSIE.             For example text within Alert messages can be treated one             way, text within normal printing can be treated another way,             and text within buttons can be treated another way. This can             cause inconsistencies that make it hard for programmers to             make the Hebrew appear OK in all cases, and this problem is             even further complicated by the fact that for example             sometimes a new version of a browser treats something             differently than a previous version, which means that the             programmer has to check all the time if the new versions             also work OK, and if not, the programmer might have to             create for example a different version of the questionnaire             to work which each version of the browser that works             differently. This can also cause additional problems to the             users, since sometimes the browser does not detect properly             which version of the encoding is correct, and then the user             might for example have to correct the encoding manually             (through the View menu in the browser) for example from             Hebrew-Visual to Hebrew-Logical, or vice versa. (In             addition, in a Javascript page even this might not help             since the changed encoding might not effect all the parts).             So preferably this is solved by adding for example to the             HTML command set an encoding command, for example as an             additional option in the <font> tag, and/or adding for             example various commands for various parameters of handling             text in other languages. In addition, if the programmer has             to prepare different versions of the questionnaire for             different versions of browsers (for example because of             language problems or for example because of new features,             such as for example the differently sized buttons, that are             supported only by later versions of the browsers and cause             problems if used with an older version), then the programmer             might have to offer the users a menu of different versions             of the questionnaire according to which version of which             browser they are using, and/or for example detect             automatically if the user chose the wrong version, and then             preferably switch automatically to the correct version.             However, this might require passing parameters to the other             version, so preferably the Javascript and/or html command             set is expanded to include the possibility to use for             example the “location” command (which switches to another             page) or a similar command together with the ability to             transfer one or more parameters that can contain data             between the pages (this can also be done for example through             browser cookies, but being able to use parameters can make             it much more convenient and easy to use). (Of course the             programmer can also for example use just one version of the             questionnaire with various dependent commands that change             according to the detected version, however if there are many             changes this can make the version very cumbersome and also             might make it work too slow because of too many IF's).         -   e. In addition, preferably the system is able to detect             and/or report automatically for example cases where users             stop filling the questionnaire in the middle and/or for             example quit for some reason. This can be done for example             by sending an automatic email message to the site operators             (or for example adding data to one or more files) for             example after the user finishes each part of the             questionnaire (or for example only at one or more             checkpoints) and/or for example using an automatic timer             since the user starts filling the questionnaire or since he             starts filling various parts of it, so that preferably the             system can automatically detect such problems. (This can be             done for example by using a button for moving to the next             part, which is actually defined as a submit button of a form             and activates a function which contains the “location”             command, so although the user is moved to the next part by             the “location” command, the submitted form also does             something else at the server side at the same time). This             can be used for example for obtaining statistics about what             percent of users have problems for example with each part of             the questionnaire and/or for example finished some parts but             not other parts, and/or for example for sending (preferably             automatically) an appropriate email to such clients,             preferably with questions on what exactly was the problem,             etc.         -   f. Preferably the Internet browsers are improved so that the             user can for example preferably easily change the font size             of the web page when printing it, so that for example the             user can make a hard copy of search results or of the data             of a compatible date at any convenient size. This is             preferably correlated with a WYSYWIG adjustable display on             the screen. This is different from the prior art, which             allows increasing font size on screen in Internet browsers             but does not enable changing the font size when the page is             printed. In addition preferably the user can also change any             colors and/or background colors of a certain page or a             certain site in a way that will be remembered by default for             example only for that web page or for example for that             domain, but preferably does not effect other sites. This is             better than the prior art, since in the prior art if the             user wants to use for example his own colors this choice             effects automatically all sites, so the user has to switch             this on or off each time he enters a site that needs a             change from the previous choice. Another possible variation             is that for example the user preferred font size can also be             remembered automatically preferably by the browser,             preferably for example per site or per page. (Of course,             like other features of this invention, these features can be             used also in general, independently of any other features of             this invention).

Of course, various combinations of the above can also be used. Like other features of this invention, these features can be used also independently of other features, including for example independently of any dating and/or any IM application.

-   -   27. Another problem is preventing for example users from filling         by mistake their wrong sex, which can happen if there are no         special precautions to prevent it. Preferably the chance for         this is reduced by at least one of the following means:         -   a. Preferably the system indicates the self-marked sex             clearly after the person has marked it, preferably also in             each subsequent section of the questionnaire, so that if the             user made a mistake he/she can clearly see it.         -   b. If the system has at least some sex-different questions,             such as for example bust size for women and for example             facial hair for men, preferably the system indicates near             these questions that if the question does not fit then             probably the user has made a mistake in indicating his/her             own sex.         -   c. Preferably the system automatically checks if the             requested wanted date's age range in comparison to the             user's own age fits the usual pattern of the marked sex, and             warns the user in case it does not, to make sure if he/she             filled the correct sex (or for example did not fill properly             the ages). This is a very good heuristic since almost always             females want males in a range of ages that goes only or             mainly above their age and males want females in a range of             ages that goes only or mainly below their age.         -   d. Another possible variation is for example automatic             analysis of the user's photo, if the user provided a photo,             so that the system can preferably automatically indicate if             the photo does not fit the marked sex, however that of             course requires much more sophisticated processing.     -   28. Another possible variation is that the system can allow         users to explore connections between users (for example through         automatically generated graphs), and preferably the connections         can be automatically defined for example when a user brings         friends to the service and/or for example when two people         exchange messages and/or add each other to their contactee lists         (i.e. become reciprocally linked through their contactee lists),         or for example each contactee list can be regarded as a list of         links to the persons that are included in it regardless of         whether the user is also in the other person's list. This is         preferably a graph and not a tree since there can be for example         also multiple sideways connections, and there can be for example         more than one route between two persons. Another possible         variation is that the system can for example use such         information in order to show for example near each compatible         date (or for example near each compatible date for which the         user requests such analysis) if he/she is related to the user         through any of the above connections (for example if there is a         link through less then a certain number of steps, for example         just up to 2 or 3 steps), and then preferably for example the         user can click on an appropriate link or icon near the person         and explore this connection by viewing for example a graph that         shows the relevant links. However, if such showing of relations         is allowed, preferably users can also block it, so that for         example the user can decide that whoever he/she contacts or adds         to his/her contactee list does not become visibly linked to         him/her in a way that other users can see, since this might for         example compromise his/her privacy. Preferably for example the         user can mark which of his/her contactees can be viewed by         others (Preferably the default is for example that his/her         contactees can be viewed, so that the user has to mark for         example a specific contactee or for example a group, preferably         by dragging the mouse over the entire group, if he wants them         not to be visible to others or to other that are connected too         him. Another possible variation is that by default the user's         contactees are not visible to others or to others that are         connected to the user and the user has to explicitly make them         visible, but that is less preferably since it would         automatically make the network smaller), however, in the context         of dating of course preferably only the user's dating contactees         become visible by default (This can be done regardless of         whether the dating contactee lists is a separate contactee list         or dating contactees are simply marked as such in a more general         contactee list, etc.). Another possible variation is that the         graph shows also preferably automatically the strength of the         links (for example by a different color and/or thickness of the         link), so that for example direct links that are reciprocal (for         example if both persons are in each others contactee list) are         automatically marked as stronger links and/or for example the         strength of the link is automatically determined also by the         number of IM messages and/or normal messages exchanged between         the users and/or the recency of them, etc., and/or for example         each user can also mark manually in his/her contactee list which         links he/she considers most important and/or other         characteristics of the link and this is preferably also taken         into consideration. Another possible variation is that if         information about such connections is used, it is preferably         limited for example to for example just 1-3 steps, and is         preferably displayed in a limited way, so that for example if         two users have a common friend (for example if both have the         same person on their contactee list directly or for example         through 1 or 2 or a few additional steps, and/or for example the         same person has such a reverse link to them), then the system         can for example automatically indicate to these users that they         have a common friend and/or for example indicate how many such         common friends they have and/or indicate who these common         friends are and/or how they are connected. Another possible         variation is that the user can use such relations as part of the         search criteria, such as for example find all potential dates         (or for example people in general or according to various         criteria) for which there is a link of no more than 3 steps (or         any other convenient number, etc.). The above variations are         much better than normal social networking sites, where people         have to wait until invited in order to join the network or can         for example search only a network tree which starts with friends         which they themselves added, and the above automatic generation         of connections is much more efficient. Of course, like other         features of this invention, this can be used also independently         of other features of this invention, for example in systems         without dating features.     -   29.Another possible variation is that the system can for example         allow users to post assessments or comments on other users that         they have met or contacted, for example in a way similar to the         way that eBay clients can report on their previous experiences         with specific sellers, so that for example when a user gets the         details of a compatible date, there is also a link to comments         by other users about that person, if other users have already         posted comments about him/her. Another possible variation is         that the system can for example recommend automatically to users         for example that other users who have added a certain person to         their contactee list typically added also the following other         persons (so that the system preferably uses various statistics         to determine the most relevant patterns—for example showing such         additional persons only if a certain percent or above of other         people that added for example that girl to their contactee list         also added that specific additional person)(for example in a way         similar to book recommendations in Amazon). However this is less         preferable, since there can be a lot of differences in user         preferences, and also, for example the knowledge that many other         people added certain potential dates to their contactee lists         might actually be a turn off for at least some users.

Another possible variation is to add the recommendation only if the other people that added the relevant person or persons were also similar enough to the user in the profile of their desired date beyond a minimal similarity value. Another possible embodiment of this invention is to use at least some of the above features in a normal preferably Internet computer dating service, preferably with the additional requirement that each user must also supply a phone number (preferably with the option of requesting “protected phone” as described above) and preferably also an instant messaging id if available. This is preferably done together with reciprocal compatibility search, since people are more willing to give the phone if they know that the people that get them also fulfill their own expectations. The feature of automatic notification (described in clause 15 above) in this case (without instant messaging and contactee lists as an inherent part of the system) is preferably done for example by sending the person that requested the notification an automatic e-mail message about it, or SMS, (or for example an automatically generated phone-call, preferably if he/she pays for it), preferably including the phone number (or proxy-phone number as a code or a link without code) of the new person (preferably in addition to the new person's e-mail, and preferably also IM number, if available), so that the person receiving the notification can also contact the new person immediately. This is in contrast to the state of the art, in which users are updated only on a periodic basis or when they perform a search. Another possible variation is that, at least for users that gave also an IM id number, the system tries to find out if they are currently Online for example through an element that contacts the relevant server, and if so, when showing a potential date's data on a dating search results list, the system preferably shows also his/her IM id number, the IM network that it belongs to, and an indication if he/she is currently Online, so that the user can instantly contact him/her through the appropriate IM client program. Another possible variation is that being Online can be defined by at least one of the following two conditions: A user has logged into the system with his/her user name and password not longer than a certain time ago, b. A user has performed at least 1 activity in the system not longer than a certain time ago. Another possible variation is that the system allows users to send to persons who are currently online according to the above definition instant messages for example by displaying a preferably visibly conspicuous messages to the person for example the next time he/she tries to access pages on the system (for example any page, or most pages or the menu) (this can be done for example by generating a page on the fly when the system recognizes by browser cookies that this is the person for whom the message is intended) and preferably one of the options on this generated page is for example to press a link that enables the users to enter a chat channel. Another possible variation is that some or all of the pages on the dating site have an automatic refresh instruction (for example once every minute or every few minutes, for example through an html tag or through Javascipt or ActiveX, if the browser supports it) and the user simply has to leave at least one window of the browser open on the site (and it is preferably recommended to do so in the instructions for users on the site) and the user can for example go on sliding in other windows, and when there is a notification for him/her, then it is included automatically in the next refresh, preferably with the addition of an audible sound that can get the user's attention. If it is done for example by Javascript or ActiveX, preferably the Javascript or ActiveX (or for example other software or mobile code) can also check for example if the user continues to actively use the browser (in order to be able to apply more efficiently the activity rules to check if the user is still Online), and when requesting the refresh the browser can for example transfer an additional parameter to the requested url that represents the Online status of the user. If it is for example ActiveX, this can be even more comprehensive, because the ActiveX (or for example other software or mobile code) can preferably know for example if the user typed or clicked anything at all and not just used the browser. This has the advantage that no special client program is needed in addition to the browser. But regardless of which exact technique is used, the idea of checking if the user has clicked on anything (for example keyboard and/or mouse) is important since it is more preferable than just deciding if the user is still “in the dating site” on not, since if the user is still near his/her computer and is connected to the Internet, he/she can preferably be reached by the IM features even if he/she has “left” the dating site, i.e. for example has not done any recent activity in the dating site itself. Of course, adding additional IM features to an online computer-dating service can make it equivalent to adding Computer Dating features to IM networks. Using an independent IM client has of course the additional advantage that users can be “spotted” as being Online even if they don't enter the dating site. And as explained above, the IM client can be for example a plug-in in the browser (which preferably installs itself automatically in all the relevant browsers on the user's computer), so that for example the dating site can install the plug-in the first time the user agrees to use the IM client (This means that if for example such a plug-in is used, when users want for example to initiate or respond to an IM message, preferably their plug-ins can of course for example communicate directly with each other like normal IM clients, and/or for example they can open a browser widow on the dating site and make the communication or at least part of it through these browser windows, for example by any of the above methods). (Another possible variation is that for example a server in the dating site or related to it can automatically run appropriate IM clients or client simulators on behalf of users on the server, so that for example if the user does not want to download any IM client or plug-in and for example has currently an open browser window in the dating site or for example has defined being Online according to his AOL's AIM client and for example a certain girl in his results lists also did not want to download a plug-in and has defined her Online status for example according to her MSN messenger client, then the dating site can for example convert messages between the user's browser and the other IM client, or for example between the two different IM clients, preferably by using a proxy IM user number which is actually on the client that runs on the server, so that when each user gets the IM user number of the other user, it is actually the proxy user number that is run on the server. As explained above in some of the above variations the server can for example communicate with the IM server of each user to find if his/her real user number is currently Online, and for example in this case the dating server or related server can for example find out if the girl is online through her MSN messenger network, and then in addition the dating sever or related server for example preferably sends the appropriate info to the AIM server as if the proxy client of the girl is now Online, so that the user can see that she is Online on his IM client, and vice versa for example for showing her that he is Online, etc. However such an implementation can be much less efficient and more problematic than downloading for example a browser plug-in or independent IM client or plug-in for other IM clients (or other software), so that, as explained above, this plug-in or software on the user's computer can preferably implement or work with the dating site's own IM network and/or talk directly with clients and/or servers of other IM networks, so that it can for example pretend do be an IM client in a number of major IM networks). Preferably the Online status of dates in the list of compatible dates is automatically updated if it changes while the list is still open (for example if the user has kept the window of the list open or has previously saved it and reopens it), for example by automatic refresh, for example every minute or more or less. Another possible variation is that in order to save bandwidth for example the html protocol is changed so that it is possible to define for example “refresh on a need basis”, which means that the refresh command is initiated automatically by the site when there is any change in the preferably dynamic page (so that the browser can get a refresh even if it didn't ask for it), or for example the browser asks for refresh more often (for example every 20 seconds or even less), but if nothing has changed then the browser gets just for example a code that tells it to keep the current page or window as is. The first of these two variations is more preferable since it saves also the waste of bandwidth by unnecessary refresh requests by the browsers. In addition, when the refresh is sent, preferably it can be a smart refresh, which tells the browser preferably only what to change on the page instead of having to send the entire page again. Another possible variation is to implement this “refresh on need” for example by active X and/or Java and/or Javascript and/or some plug-in or other dynamic code that is updated only when there is a need for it. Another possible variation is for example to keep the page open like a streaming audio or video so that the browser always waits for new input but preferably knows how to use the new input for updating the page without having to get the whole page again and preferably doesn't have to do anything until the new input arrives. These features are even more important for example for the implementation of the instant messaging and/or the automatic notification if it is done with automatic refresh, in order to increase efficiency and speed of communication. In addition, of course the contents of each page or window that contains an IM session are preferably saved on the user's computer and/or on the dating site preferably after every new message and/or at least when the window is closed, so that even if the window is closed and the user reopens it, the history of the IM session and/or all the history of communication with the given other user is preferably automatically available to the user, in order to make it preferably equivalent to an IM network that keeps a history of communications between users. Of course, like other features in this invention, the above features or variations can be used also independently of any other features of this invention, for example also independently of any dating application and/or of any IM application. Preferably, this method can also be used as an additional option for the automatic notification. Another possible variation is to use some combination so that for example the service is done with two separate interfaces—one as an Instant Messaging network with dating features added to it and one as a dating site with Instant Messaging features added to it, but preferably use the same database, so that practically the users can be matched with compatible users from the entire database, no matter which interface they used. In this case the adding of IM features to the dating site is preferably by connecting directly to the IM network, since the user needs to know if any matching date is Online according to the IM network. However, another possible variation is to use at the dating site a combination with the additional methods for determining if someone is currently Online, such as for example those described above, so that the system can know if users are Online or offline even if they choose not to use the client program of the IM network. Anyway, if a contactee list is used both on the dating site and in a related IM client (For example in a dating site with IM features a list of preferred dates which shows when they are Online is actually a contactee list according to the above definition of a contactee list), preferably the user can preferably easily and preferably directly copy dates from the list of preferred dates (or other contactee list) to his/her IM contactee list and/or vice versa. Preferably this copying can be done for example by requesting the system to automatically copy for example to the IM contactee list the details of any dates that appear on the list of preferred dates but don't appear yet in the IM contactee list (and/or vice versa), or for example marking specific dates or groups or ranges of dates for copying, or for example the data is not really copied but only linked to the other list for example though pointers or cross-links, or for example any dates that appear in the list of preferred dates are automatically copied also to the IM contactee list (preferably under the category of dating, as explained above) or automatically get a cross-link in the IM contactee list. (Another possible variation is that for example these automatically copied dates to not show normally in the IM contactee list, but for example appear there only when the date is online). Another possible variation is that, in addition or instead, for example near any potential date that is shown the user has icons for adding the date to his/her list of favorites, to his/her IM contactee list, or to both, or for example after clicking on an icon for adding one or more dates, the user is allowed to choose if to add the date or dates to his favorites list on the dating site or to the IM contactee list or to both and preferably the last choice is used the next time as default (This transfer of information between the two contactee lists is preferably done for example by adding an appropriate plug-in to the browser, which is preferably the same browser plug-in described above, so that the plug-in can communicate directly with the IM client on the user's computer and/or by letting for example the server at the dating site communicate directly with the server of the IM network and then the IM server for example automatically updates the IM client, and/or for example by improving the IM client so that it can communicate directly with the user's browser). Another possible variation is that for example clicking on a date (or for example on a certain icon next to him/her) in the IM contactee list can automatically open for example a browser window on the dating site with the page that lists the data on that date (or for example the page that shows the list of preferred dates). Another possible variation is to allow users for example to “import” their data from other dating sites, so that if for example the user has already filled his/her data in another dating site the user can for example use cut & paste of the URL that displays his/her data on the other site or for example use cut & paste on the content of that page, and then his/her data is preferably automatically converted to the correct format in the current dating site. This can be done for example by creating the appropriate templates and/or conversion rules at least for the largest other dating sites, and for example for any data that is missing the user can be preferably automatically asked to complete only the missing data. However, in order to avoid legal complications if for example someone “imports” this way the data of another user without his/her consent, preferably if such importing is allowed, preferably this procedure is combined with sending an email to that user or for example a message to his/her message box on the site from which his/her data is being imported or for example an instant message, preferably automatically, for verification, and preferably automatically logging the reply. Another possible variation is for example automatic importing of contactee lists from other IM networks, so that if the user has for example a few dozen people in his/her contactee list on a certain IM network and he/she wants to be able to access them also in another IM network, he/she can for example initiate an automatic search preferably for all of them (for example according to name, nick name, email, and/or other identifiers) to check if they exist there too (so that the system preferably searches automatically for each of them, without the user having to activate the search manually for each one) or for example send to all of them an automatic question if they are listed also in the other IM network, or for example an automatic invitation to join also the other IM network, etc. Of course, if and when various IM networks eventually allow direct communication across different IM networks, preferably the user will automatically be able to import his/her contactees from other IM networks to be added to his/her contactee list in the desired IM network (for example with an indication to which IM network they belong). This can be implemented for example in any of the ways described in the patent summary. Another possible variation is that if the site uses for example mailboxes for sending messages to other users apart from IM (for example when the user sends a message instead of an IM for example because the other user is not currently Online), preferably a copy of the message itself (and not just a notification about the message) is automatically sent also the email of the receiving user (so that the user can have an even higher motivation for example to click on the link and go to the site). Of course, various combinations of these variations can also be used.

FIG. 1 shows a preferable way in which the user fills the questionnaire as a plug-in or add-on within an instant-messaging client program. When the user activates the client (11), the system first checks if the user has already been registered in the system and, if not, gives him/her a new unique user id, and/or the system can also use for example the id that the user has in the network in which he/she is a member together with a code of the network. (This check can be done either by checking locally on the user's computer or by checking on our server(s) on the Internet) (12). If the user hasn't filled the questionnaire already, he is asked to fill it, including preferably his self-description, description of the ideal date, and the importance for each question (13). Then, if the user has made changes or has filled the questionnaire for the first time, the user's data is saved, preferably both on the user's computer and on our servers(s) on the Internet in a static database of all users who filled the questionnaire or in a dynamic database of users currently online (14). After this, the user continues to work with the instant messaging client (15).

FIG. 2 shows a preferable way in which the user fills the questionnaire as a standalone application or as part of custom-made instant messaging client. First the system checks if the user has already been registered in the system and, if not, gives him/her a new unique user id, and/or the system can also use for example the id that the user has in the network in which he/she is a member together with a code of the network. (This check can be done either by checking locally on the user's computer or by checking on our server(s) on the Internet) (21). If the user hasn't filled the questionnaire already, he is asked to fill it, including preferably his self description, description of the ideal date, and the importance for each question (22). Then if the user has made changes or has filled the questionnaire for the first time, the user's data is saved, preferably both on the user's computer and on our servers(s) on the Internet in a static database of all users who filled the questionnaire or in a dynamic database of users currently online (23). After this, the user either activates the instant messaging client program which is coupled to the search plug-in or add-on (if the standalone filling application works in conjunction with the existing main instant messaging networks) or continues to work with the standalone's own instant messaging client (if it is part of our own instant messaging client) (24).

FIG. 3 shows a preferable way in which the dynamic database of users that are currently Online works. As soon as the user opens the Internet connection and activates the instant messaging client (which is either our own client program or the client program of one of the common instant messaging networks with our custom-made plug-in or plug-ins or add-on or add-ons), preferably a message is sent to the dynamic database server(s) containing the user's filled compatibility questionnaire data (31). Then our client or the plug-in or add-on coupled to the client preferably keeps sending at short intervals a short message to one of our servers containing the user's unique id so that the system can tell if the user is still logged-in (preferably these short messages are sent either to the Database server itself or to another server, which will in turn notify the database server if the messages stop coming) (32). (of course, if it is a plug-in or add-on to an existing client program, it is also possible to get such info by letting our server query the normal server of the client, but that is less efficient and might be for example blocked by the normal server of the client). Another possible variation is for example instead of using short messages at short intervals, for example to rely on some automatic logoff signals, however since that is less reliable, such a method is preferably accompanied for example by automatic notification to the server and/or to other clients whenever attempts (for example by the server or by any other client) to communicate with the user who is still supposed to be online show that he/she is no longer online. In other words: The IM server is automatically informed by other IM clients if they try to reach a client that is considered Online but don't succeed and thus the IM server can assume that that IM client is no longer Online, and/or assumes so if the server itself does not succeed to connect to that client. Similarly, preferably if the server and/or other clients receive communications from a client that was considered to be offline, the receiving clients report it to the server and the server updates its status to Online. If automatic logoff signals are used, preferably the client software creates a hook or interface with the communication software and/or with the routines that are activated when the OS (Operating System) is shut down so that when the user closes the client software and/or the Internet connection and/or shuts down properly the OS, the client software can still first send to the IM server a message that the user has logout out, before letting the connection to actually be closed. However, since the user might for example turn off the computer through the power switch or through pressing reset (without properly shutting down the OS or the connection), the above automatic notification is preferably also used. Of course, these alternative methods of determining if a user is still Online can be used also in combination with any other variation in this patent. When the user requests an instant dating search (For example with his profile in a 2-way compatibility search or as a 1-way search or search for a small group of qualities, for example—find all the blondes with highest IQ who are currently logged in, or find them for example only if the reciprocal compatibility score with them is above a certain percent; Other search options can be for to example find only dates with a minimum compatibility score requested by the user, but preferably the user cannot request a minimal score lower than a certain minimum required by the system as the minimal acceptable compatibility score), the client sends the appropriate request to the dynamic database (33). The dynamic database will make the search accordingly and send back the list of most compatible dates that are currently connected, preferably including various details about them according to the type of search. The user may also add any of them to his/her contactee list and can be notified immediately when they are Online again (34) in a similar way to the description of 44. When the short messages from the client cease reaching the appropriate server, indicating that the user is no longer connected, his data is removed from the dynamic database (35).

FIG. 4 shows a preferable way in which the static database of users that filled the compatibility questionnaire works. After the user finishes filling the questionnaire or makes changes to it, his or her data (including also his name, e-mail and unique user Id) is transferred to the static DB (41) and is preferably saved also on the user's computer. As soon as the user activates the instant messaging client, preferably short messages are again sent to the appropriate server as in FIG. 3, and the static database also preferably sets a logged-on mark in the record of each user that is currently logged-in on the Internet (This mark may be also set for example at a separate file or index or pointer in addition or instead, and held for example in RAM memory for maximum access speed, or on the disk, or both) (42). When the user requests a dating search (again, for example 2-way compatibility or 1 way search or search for just certain attributes), preferably he/she may also choose if he/she wants to search for all compatible dates or only those that are currently Online. (If the user wants to search only for people who are currently online, preferably he has the option of choosing for example a maximum time that elapsed since someone was online or the minimum average frequency that someone is online) (43). The list of most compatible dates (again, preferably, with various details) can be added to the user's list of contactees in the instant messaging client (if it's our own client or the contactee is a member of the same network) or to a special list maintained by the plug-in or add-on (if it is a plug-in or add-on coupled to one of the common instant messaging clients). Preferably, the user has a choice of marking which of these compatible dates to add to his contactee list or which of them to remove. (44). If any of these chosen compatible dates becomes Online, the user is preferably immediately notified about it (45). When a user is no longer online, his/her on-line mark or marks are set again to off (46).

FIG. 5 shows a preferable way in which the compatible-date search application works as a plug-in or add-on within an instant messaging client. When the user wants to search for new compatible people, he/she chooses within the plug-in or add-on for example if he/she wants to execute a 2-way compatibility search or just search for people with certain qualities (and also if to search only for people currently Online, if it is a static DB) (51). The plug-in or add-on then transfers the search request to the appropriate DB server (Which can be for example static, or dynamic, or both) and then displays the results to the user as explained in FIG. 3 and 4) (52).

FIG. 6 shows a preferable way in which the compatible-date search application works within a custom-made instant messaging client (in other words—our own client). When the user wants to search for new compatible people, he/she chooses for example if he/she wants to execute a 2-way compatibility search or just search for people with certain qualities (and also if to search only for people currently Online, if it is a static DB) (61). The client then transfers the search request to the appropriate DB server (Which can be for example static, or dynamic, or both) and then displays the results to the user as explained in FIG. 3 and 4) (62). This custom-made client can be either a stand-alone application, or work as a plug-in or add-on within another Internet application such as for example one of the big browsers (such as Netscape or Microsoft Internet Explorer), or be an integral part of it. (Of course, the plug-in or add-on described for example in FIG. 5 can also be for example coupled to a client which is itself for example coupled to a browser or an integral part of it).

FIG. 7 is a schematic diagram of a preferable way that the add-on can for example let the client or part of the client act as if it is communicating with another client of the same network or with its server, but translate the communication to another protocol and/or redirect it to the other network. When the user's client program is trying communicate in its normal protocol, for example ICQ, with the normal interface of its chat windows (71), if the plug-in or add-on sees that the communication is actually intended for or coming from a client of a different network, for example MSN (72), it preferably steps-in and converts between protocols as needed (73). If it's an outgoing communication the add-on or plug-in preferably redirects the output to the appropriate server or client of the other network as needed. If it is an incoming communication it preferably translates it into the protocol that the client program expects to see and makes the client think that this communication came from its own network. In order to enable this, preferably all the contactees that are not really members of the client program's IM network are specially marked by the plug-in or add-on, So that it can intervene when the user's client program is trying to communicate with them.

FIG. 8 is an example of a preferable way that the extended contactee list can look like. In the example shown the order is to show first contactees that are available for dating, then friends or other contactees not related to dating (marked with “N/A”=Not Applicable), and then people who were found in the context of date searching but are now no more interested or available for dating. In this example this group is preferably last since the user is probably least likely to want to contact them. Inside each group the order can be for example alphabetic and/or based on the most recent activity and/or on putting the persons with the longest contact history with the user on top, or any combinations of this, as explained in the reference to this in FIG. 1 a. (“comm.” stands for communications with the user). When someone is not available preferably he/she changes his/her status on his/her client, which then preferably propagates automatically to update all the other contactee lists where that person is listed. This is like having a computer dating output list which is updated in real time (or when the user is next Online) whenever there is any change in the status of the persons on the list. In this example “*F” means found someone through the service, “*E” means found someone elsewhere, “*TF” and “*TE” mean this new status is only temporary, “*FM means found someone trough the service and got married”, “*EM means found someone not trough the service and got married”, ” *T means temporarily unavailable, etc. Of course other status options and codes can be used instead or in addition. For implementing for example the reporting on most frequent activity hours (activity in the IM network) (and/or for example how often the user is Online in general), preferably the statistics are gathered for each user by his/her own client program and sent to the server, in order to save time and not unnecessarily burden the server or servers, however it is of course also possible to let the server gather these statistics directly. Preferably, the various times data are displayed in terms of the user's local time zone (for example by taking into account the different time zones between the user and the contactee and automatically adjusting it). Preferably the compatibility scores (as reported in the search results list) with each person in the contactee list are also saved automatically when the person is added to the contactee list, so that the user can click on or near the contactee in order to get for example a reminder of these scores, and/or view also the contactee's profile or at least part of it. Of course this is just an example and other orders can also be used, as explained for example in clause 2 of the reference to FIG. 1 a.

FIG. 9 is an example of a preferable way that the list of most compatible dates following a reciprocal compatibility search can look like. Since there are preferably a serious number of questions (such as for example 100 or above) for enabling really systematic matching, it is impractical to show the full profile of the date to the user, and it is also undesired because: A. some questions or types of questions (such as in the area of personality for example) are preferably kept discrete, otherwise people will not answer them honestly. B. With such a large number of questions people have a problem analyzing and integrating all this information, so detailed compatibility scores plus a list of most important fulfilled expectations can help the user see the picture very efficiently. Another possible variation is for example to let the user click on the date in order to get his/her profile, but the profile is preferably shown without the questions marked as discrete or confidential. Another possible variation is that when the user requests to see the date's profile, he/she is shown only the answers the date gave on the questions most important to him/her (preferably with the additional limitation that in any case this does not include questions that are considered discrete or confidential). For this reason preferably in the questionnaire itself the questions that are considered discrete and confidential are preferably marked differently. (Another possible variation is that the user can also mark for example up to a certain amount of questions as confidential while filling the questionnaire or correcting it, or can mark questions in certain section as confidential if he/she chooses, but this is less desirable since it can make filling the questionnaire more cumbersome). This is just an example of a possible way of ordering the results. Another possible variation is for example to list the Online and Offline users together in descending order of compatibility scores, and just add a mark, or indicate for example by different color if they are online or offline. For example, dates who are currently online can be marked in a bright color, dates who are offline but have recently been online are marked in a darker color, and dates who have not been online for example for a few months (a limit which preferably can be determined also by the user), are marked for example in gray. Of course, more than 3 levels can also be used. This is more useful for people who want to seriously find a date and don't care if he/she is currently online or not, whereas people who prefer for example to chat with a compatible date right now will probably prefer the option that lists them separately. Therefore, preferably the user can choose which of these options to use. Other issues of ordering the results and of search and sorting options were discussed in the reference to this in FIG. 1 a above. Another possible variation is that the user can also save this list for later reference, and if there is change for example in the availability for dating of any of the persons in the list or for example in their geographical/physical vicinity, it is preferably updated automatically in a way similar to the way that this status can be updated automatically for people in the contactee list, as explained in the reference to FIGS. 1 a & 8. Another possible variation is that after looking at the list the user can for example mark persons whom he/she doesn't want to show up again in future searches (this set of marked persons can be saved for example on the client or on the server or both). Also, other variations are possible, such as for example showing on the results list more concise data on each person that is expanded (for example into a separate window) if the user clicks on that person, or displaying for example a few separate sets of concise results for example for each geographical area that the user requested, etc. Of course various combinations of these and other variations are also possible.

While the invention has been described with respect to a limited number of embodiments, it will be appreciated that many variations, modifications, expansions and other applications of the invention may be made which are included within the scope of the present invention, as would be obvious to those skilled in the art. 

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 4. A method for searching, finding and contacting dates on the Internet in instant messaging networks, comprised of at least the following steps: a. Providing a Client program, located on the User's computer; b. Providing at least one Server, located on the Internet; c. Providing at least one module for filling and making changes to a computer dating compatibility questionnaire; d. Providing a search module for finding potential dates which can check also if said potential dates are currently Online; e. Providing at least one of: An ability to search also for dates who are not currently Online, and The ability to search for dates based on reciprocal compatibility; f. Providing an instant messa ging element which knows if the user is currently On-line, and also enables instant exchange of messages between users. 5-44. (canceled)
 45. In an Online computer Dating service, a method wherein a systematic data pool of pictures and/or images of males and of females is used, and the pictures are at least one of photographs and systematically drawn images, and each user can at least one of: Mark at least one picture that is most similar to said user, and Mark the pictures of the opposite sex that said user most likes. 46-70. (canceled)
 71. In an Online computer dating system, a method of indicating to the user matching dates that are currently online differently from matching dates that are not currently online, wherein the system knows if users are currently online by at least 1 of: a. An integration with an instant Messaging system, as in claim 4; b. For users that gave also an IM id number, the system tries to find out if said users are currently Online through an element that contacts the relevant server, and if so, when showing a potential date's data on a dating search results list, the system shows also said potential date's IM id number, the IM network that said IM number belongs to, and an indication if said potential date is Online, so that the user can contact said potential date through the appropriate IM client program; c. For users that gave also an IM id number, the system tries to find out if said users are currently Online through an element that contacts the relevant server; d. Being Online can be defined as at least one of:
 1. A user has logged into the system with the user's user name and password not longer than a certain time ago,
 2. A user has performed at least one activity in the system not longer than a certain time ago,
 3. The user continues to actively use the browser,
 4. A user's computer is connected to the Internet and the user has been active at the computer not longer than a certain time ago; e. Adding instant messaging features to a dating site.
 72. The method of claim 71 wherein both a list of preferred dates is used on the dating site and a contactee list is used on a related IM client, and the user can directly copy dates from the list of preferred dates to his/her IM contactee list and/or vice versa.
 73. The method of claim 72 wherein said copying can be done by at least one of: a. Requesting the system to automatically copy to the contactee list the details of any dates that appear on the list of preferred dates but don't appear yet in the contactee list, and/or vice versa; b. Marking specific dates or groups or ranges of dates for copying. c. The data is not really copied but only linked to the other list through pointers or cross-links; d. Any dates that appear in the list of preferred dates are automatically copied also to the IM contactee list or automatically get a cross-link in the contactee list; e. Near any potential date that is shown the user has icons for adding the date to his/her list of favorites, to his/her normal IM contactee list, or to both; f. After clicking on an icon for adding one or more dates, the user is allowed to choose if to add the date or dates to the favorite list or to the contactee list or both.
 74. The method of claim 71 wherein for determining if the user is still Online without having to send short message every certain interval, at least one of the following methods is used: a. The client software creates a hook or interface with the communication software and/or with the routines that are activated when the OS (Operating System) is shut down so that when the user closes the client software and/or the Internet connection and/or shuts down properly the OS, the client software can still first send to the IM server a message that the user has logout out, before letting the connection to actually be closed; b. The IM server is automatically informed by other IM clients if they try to reach a client that is considered Online but don't succeed and thus the IM server can assume that that IM client is no longer Online; c. If the IM server does not succeed in communicating with a client, the server can assume that the client is no longer Online; d. If the server and/or other clients receive communications from a client that was considered to be offline, the receiving clients report it to the server and the server updates its status to Online.
 75. The method of claim 71 wherein when dealing with people not currently Online the system automatically tries to come up with a list of most compatible dates who are most recent, and if the scores are not high enough and/or the list is not long enough, the system automatically decides to create instead a list containing also people who are less recent and so on in one or more steps, until the list is long enough and/or the scores are high enough and/or the recency compromise has reached backwards enough.
 76. The method of claim 71 wherein if the user did not answer some questions, the system handles the missing values by at least one of: a. Taking into account the average or most frequent answers in each question that the user did not answer; b. Taking into account also the correlations of each missing answer with other answers; c. Giving a lower score for matching on missing values, in a way that reflects the uncertainty.
 77. The method of claim 45 wherein when there is no direct match between the marked self image of the date and the user's marked preferences in these images, or vice versa, the system takes into account also the distance or similarity between the preferred images and the actual image, and at least one of the following features exists: a. Said distance or similarity analysis is based on systematic classification of the images according to various variables; b. Said actual image is the image or images that were marked by the other person as most similar to himself/herself; c. The relevant parameters of each image are coded in advance as numeric data so that no actual image analysis is done during the compatibility search; d. If the date submitted also an actual photo then the analysis of distance or similarity can be done in addition or instead also on the actual photo.
 78. The method of claim 71 wherein if the user browses through photos of actual opposite sex users, he/she can request to view photos that are similar to one or more photos that he/she likes and then the system automatically shows him/her those photos, and/or the similarity to the preferred photos is used as one of the criteria for the automatic matching, and wherein the photos of actual users are automatically analyzed in advance after the user submits it according to various parameters in order to convert it into numerical codes so that during the actual compatibility search and/or during searching for similar photos only these numerical codes are used.
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 82. The method of claim 71 wherein dynamic web pages are used and for updating the online status of dates on the results list and/or for faster instant messaging through the browser at least one of the following features is used: a. The refresh command is initiated automatically by the site when there is any change in the page, so that the browser can get a refresh even if it didn't ask for it; b. The browser asks for refresh more often, but if nothing has changed then the browser gets just a code that tells it to keep the current page or window as is; c. When the refresh is sent, it is a smart refresh, which tells the browser only what to change on the page instead of having to send the entire page again.
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 86. The method of claim 71 wherein a combination is used so that the service is done with two separate interfaces—one as an Instant Messaging network with dating features added to it and one as a dating site with Instant Messaging features added to it, but the same database is used, so that practically the users can be matched with compatible users from the entire database, no matter which interface they used.
 87. The method of claim 86 wherein the adding of IM features to the dating site is by at least one of: a. Connecting directly to the IM network, so that the user can know if any matching date is Online according to the IM network; b. Using at the dating site also any of the other systems or methods of claim 71 for determining if someone is currently Online, so that the system can know if users are Online or offline even if they choose not to use the client program of the IM network.
 88. The method of claim 71 wherein at least one of the following features exists: a. The user is given on a regular basis relevant statistical details about how many other matching dates have viewed his/her data but were unable to contact him/her because they did not pay; b. The user is informed based on real-time notification when a highly compatible match, according to one or more criteria, viewes the user's data; c. Each user can also remove himself/herself automatically from all the contacted lists where he/she is listed and/or at least block certain users by at least one of being deleted from their contactee lists or equivalents of contactee lists and making the system never let them know that the user is online; d. Users are encouraged to pay by giving them a partial experience, so that the user can contact dates even if he/she didn't pay, but can send each potential date only a limited number of messages if he/she did not pay; e. IM features are added to an Online dating site and the contents of each page or window that contains an IM session are saved on the user's computer and/or on the dating site, so that even if the window is closed and the user reopens it, the history of the IM session and/or all the history of communication with the given other user is available to the user; f. The time needed for filling the questionnaire is speeded up by defining radio and/or checkbox buttons as wider than their height, so that without unduly large line-spacing the user can easily mark or unmark such areas without having to reach precisely the exact point in terms of right/left; g. The system automatically indicates near each person in the user's contactee list and/or in his/her date-search results list if that person has added the user to his/her own contactee list; h. When someone adds the user to his/her contactee list, the user can get an automatic notification about this and can be automatically invited to view the other person's data and/or the compatibility score with the other person and/or to make the link reciprocal; i. The mark that indicates if someone is currently online and/or the availability status of each date is automatically updated also on the list of compatible dates at least if the user saves the list or keeps the window of the list open, like in the automatic updating of the contactee list; j. The system can give the sender of an Instant Message a confirmation if and/or when the recipient has opened and/or read the Instant Message; k. Instead of sending the notification as soon as possible after the new date becomes available, the system waits until one or more such highly compatible dates become available and if they do then the message is sent immediately, otherwise the system waits a certain time limit, and if no additional highly compatible dates that meet the criteria become available, then the message is sent anyway; l. The questionnaire contains at least one question that is variable according to at least one of Country, culture and/or religion and/or other relevant significant background parameters, so that certain cultures and/or religions and/or countries and/or users with other significant relevant background can have one or more specific questions that are relevant only to that group of people and wherein such variable questions are taken into consideration only among users who have both answered them and/or who belong to the relevant group or groups; m. If questions are added to the questionnaire, each user is automatically invited to fill only the new questions, and the new questions automatically appear at least one of: When the user becomes online, when the user enters the dating site and when the user tries to perform certain acts in the site
 89. The method of claim 45 wherein at least one of the following features exists: a. The systematic images are images that are automatically generated by the computer; b. The user can request to browse photos of actual users that are similar to any of the systematic photos that the user marked as desirable; c. If a user submits an actual photo this photo can be automatically analyzed in order to correct the estimate that the user gave about how similar he is to photos of the systematic pool of images; d. The user can supply an actual photo and have it converted automatically by the system to an approximate image so that the approximate image is similar to him/her but not exactly the same and/or looks like one of the systematically drawn images.
 90. The method of claim 45 wherein for the more modular choices at least one of the following features exists: a. The users are shown the modular elements separately; b. The user can mark or choose the modular elements within full or partially full faces and/or full or-partially full body images; c. The user can mark or otherwise indicate that he/she wants a date with a certain one or more element similar to that element or elements in a given image or a given photo, and then the system at least one of: Changes the image accordingly, Brings the user to the appropriate place in the taxonomy, Generates the relevant part of the taxonomy on the fly, and Displays multiple similar images next to each other; d. The systematic images used are images that are automatically generated by the computer and the choices can be automatically generated on the fly for the user according to his/her previous choices; e. The choice of the preferred images in the taxonomy can be by clicking on the part of the face or of the body that the user most likes and then the system automatically knows where to proceed according to that part, so that by clicking on a certain part in a certain image the user both chooses the desired image and a specific element in it; f. When the user clicks on an element in an Image, the system can ask the user if he/she wants to view more images with the same or similar element or specific type of choice about that element, or any combination of the available types of choices for that element, or view similar images where the chosen element is different; g. When the user clicks on the hair in an Image, the system can ask the user if he/she wants to view more images with the same or similar hair color, the same or similar hair style, the same or similar hair length, or any combination of the above, or view similar images where these elements are different; h. By clicking on an element with one mouse button the user can request to see more images with a similar element and by clicking with another mouse button the user can choose to change the element and/or what to change in the element; i. The user can use at least one of the scroll button of the mouse, the arrows and other keys, in order to have the chosen elements or elements change instantly on the same image across the various available options; j. For defining his/her own appearance the user uses more the functions of changing various modular elements until the right appearance is selected, and for defining the desired date the user uses more the functions of showing similar appearances, since when defining preferences typically there is a large range of variations that the user may like.
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 92. The method of claim 71 wherein the user can scroll over various parameters of synthesized speech and/or a systematic set of recordings of real voices and/or real voices that are manipulated by the computer to reflect different parameters, in order to select or choose a voice similar to his/her own voice and/or types of preferable voice in the preferred dates and wherein at least one of the following features exists: a. The system can use these choices as additional selection criteria; b. If an actual recording of the user is available, this is analyzed automatically according to the relevant criteria and used in addition or instead of the systematic sounds to which the users refer; c. The user can browse potential dates and request to view potential dates with a similar voice.
 93. (canceled)
 94. (canceled)
 95. (canceled)
 96. The method of claim 71 wherein at least one of the following features exists: a. The system can show near each user or compatible date that is currently online if he/she is currently engaged in another IM session and/or chat with one or more persons, and/or in how many such sessions he/she is engaged and/or with how many other users; b. The system can show statistics for each user, such as to what percent of messages that user has responded, and/or his/her average time for response; c. The system can show for each potential date how many other people already sent messages to that person so far since he/she joined or for a certain recent period; d. The sender gets an indication when the user to which the IM message was sent (and/or even for non IM messages) sees the message; e. Whenever a user gets a new IM message he/she also gets an auditory indication with a vocal message by the system that identifies the user who sent the message.
 97. A dating system over an interactive TV network, wherein to determine if someone is currently Online system uses at least one of the following methods: a. The Cable TV or satellite decoder or set-top-box senses any button that the user presses on the remote control and/or even senses if other remote controls are used, and if any such button has been pressed within a certain time period, the system assumes that the user is currently Online; b. The said decoder can sense the signal of turning the TV on or off and assumes that someone is “Online” if the TV is currently turned on; c. The said decoder senses if the TV is currently on by sensing the electromagnetic field emitted by the TV; d. Such detection features are integrated in the TV itself; e. Someone is considered Online only if he/she is currently on the Interactive TV channel; f. The decoder has a video camera and/or volumetric sensor and/or other sensor or sensors that can sense automatically if someone is moving in the room and/or is sitting in front of the TV.
 98. The system of claim 97 wherein for implementing IM features over an Interactive TV network the system uses at least one of the following methods: a. The user can receive instant messages on the screen, at least when he/she is in the same interactive channel; b. If the user is in another channel, the user can at least receive some non-interfering visual and/or auditory indication that an IM message has arrived; c. For sending IM messages the remote control contains also letter keys and/or some additional keyboard is available for this. d. The IM messages can be vocal messages; e. The IM messages can be vocal messages, enabled by including a microphone in the remote control; f. There is also a speaker on the remote control.
 99. (canceled)
 100. (canceled)
 101. The method of claim 88 wherein the implementation of the wider buttons by the browsers is changed so that at least one of the following features exists: a. The elongated squares are visible all the time; b. The elongated squares are visible whenever the mouse is within the area of one of them even before the user clicks on it; c. The specific square becomes visible when the mouse is within its area, even before clicking on it; d. The radio or checkbox button itself is shown in the elongated form, and the mark within it is also enlarged accordingly automatically, or the “style” command is expanded to include also the ability to define the size of the mark within the button; e. The programmer can define a separate elongation to the right and to the left of the button.
 102. The method of claim 71 wherein the time needed for filling the questionnaire is speeded up by at least one of the following: a. Improving the html command set and/or the Javascript command set so that it is possible to define which button or buttons will be activated by default if the user presses the Enter Key and/or the Space Key; b. Improving the html command set and/or the Javascript command set so that it is possible to define which button or buttons will be activated by which keys, so that any key or keys or at least some keys can be associated with at least some buttons.
 103. The method of claim 71 wherein the system is able to detect and/or report automatically cases where users stop filling the questionnaire in the middle and/or quit for some reason and/or too much time has elapsed since the user began filling the questionnaire or some part of it.
 104. (canceled)
 105. (canceled)
 106. (canceled)
 107. The method of claim 72 wherein clicking on a date or on an icon next to him/her in the IM contactee list can automatically open a browser window on the dating site with the page that lists the data on that date or the page that shows the list of preferred dates.
 108. (canceled)
 109. (canceled)
 110. The method of claim 71 wherein the system tries to prevent cases of users filling their wrong sex by at least one of the following means: a. The system indicates the self-marked sex clearly after the person has marked it, so that if the user made a mistake he/she can clearly see it; b. If the system has at least some sex-different questions, the system indicates near these questions that if the question does not fit then probably the user has made a mistake in indicating his/her own sex; c. The system automatically checks if the requested wanted date's age range in comparison to the user's own age fits the usual pattern of the marked sex, and warns the user in case it does not, to make sure if he/she filled the correct sex; d. The system is able to make automatic analysis of the user's photo, if the user provided a photo, and can automatically indicate if it does not fit the marked sex.
 111. The method of claim 71 wherein the user can request to sort the results according to any one or more specific questions which the user can choose from the questions that exist in the questionnaire, even when more questions are used for computing the security scores beyond those that are used for the sorting. 112-117. (canceled)
 118. The method of claim 71 wherein the system can allow users to explore connections between users, and the connections can be automatically defined by at least one of: a. When a user brings friends to the service; b. When two people exchange messages and/or add each other to their contactee lists, i.e. become reciprocally linked through their contactee lists; c. Each contactee list can be regarded as a list of links to the persons that are included in it regardless of whether the user is also in the other person's list.
 119. (canceled) 120-124. (canceled)
 125. The method of claim 71 wherein at least one of the following is done to encourage users to add new users to the service: a. Users can get a free membership for a certain period for each new user that they add to the service; b. Each user can make some profit as a percent of subscription fees paid by new users that he/she has brought to the service; c. Each user can make some profit as a percent of subscription fees paid by new users that he/she has brought, and to a lesser extent, also revenues from additional users brought by these additional users, until a certain cumulative percent and/or certain maximum amount and/or until a certain level in the tree; d. Each user can make some profit as a percent of subscription fees paid by new users that he/she has brought, and to a lesser extent, also revenues from additional users brought by these additional users, and this tree structure can be traced by the users on the Internet so that each user can know how many “agents” are working in the logical tree below him/her at any time and/or how much each of them sold and/or what his/her credit status is at any time; e. When users bring new users to the service, the added friend or new user also gets some benefit compared to users which were not brought by other users; f. Each user can perform a single action which automatically sends a message about the dating service to all the people in his/her IM contactee list. 126-134. (canceled)
 135. The method of claim 71 wherein in order to encourage people to upload their pictures at least one of the following is done: a. People who did not upload at least one acceptable picture of themselves can view only the first picture of each potential mate even when that mate has uploaded more pictures, together with an indication that additional pictures of this user are available to users who have uploaded their own picture; b. People who did not upload at least one acceptable picture of themselves see the pictures of other members only in smaller format and/or in lower resolution; c. People who did not upload at least one acceptable picture of themselves see each picture with a missing or blocked part in it; d. People who did not upload at least one acceptable picture of themselves see each picture with a missing or blocked part in it, and the blocked part contains the message inviting the user to upload his/her own photo so that he can see the full images undisturbed.
 136. (canceled)
 137. The method of claim 71 wherein near potantial dates is shown how many other users added that person to their contactee list through the dating service and/or how many already sent messages to that person so far and/or how many people from the dating service that person already added to his/her contactee list and/or contacted so far.
 138. The method of claim 137 wherein these statistics are automatically also normalized to include a score that takes into account also how long that person has been in the service, and/or how often he/she is active in the dating activity of the service, and/or the system shows near the potential date also how long he/she has been in the service, and/or how often he/she is active in the dating activity of the service.
 139. (canceled)
 140. The method of claim 118 wherein at least one of the following features exists: a. The connections can shown to the user in a shape of a graph; b. The system uses can show near each compatible date (or near each compatible date for which the user requests such analysis) if he/she is related to the user through any of the above connections, and then the user can click on an appropriate link or icon near the person and explore this connection by viewing a graph that shows the relevant links; c. The connections can shown to the user in a shape of a graph and the graph shows also automatically the strength of the links by a different color and/or thickness of the link and/or by other indication; d. The user can mark which of his/her contactees can be viewed by other users or by other users which are already connected to that user, and the default is that his/her contactees can be viewed or the default is that they cannot be viewed; e. If two users have the same person on their contactee list directly or through a few additional steps, and/or the same person has such a reverse link to them, the system can automatically indicate to these users that they have a common friend and/or indicate how many such common friends they have and/or indicate who these common friends are and/or how they are connected and/or use this as part of the search criteria.
 141. The method of claim 103 wherein this detection is used for at least one of: a. Obtaining statistics about what percent of users have problems with each part of the questionnaire and/or finished some parts but not other parts; b. Sending an appropriate email to such clients, with questions on what exactly was the problem.
 142. (canceled) 